摆脱处男
by Vinny
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如何克服自我，摆脱自我，成为更好的团队成员 (How to get over yourself, strip away that ego, and become a better team member)
As I’ve worked in design, my focus has moved from the practice of design work and “nitpixeling” (thanks for this word Jon Moore) to focusing on the bigger picture.
在从事设计工作时，我的工作重点已从设计工作和“ nitpixeling”(感谢Jon Moore称呼)转向了专注于更大的画面。
By the bigger picture I don’t just mean company objectives, or working with the executives. I’m talking about the team I’m working in. The products we are making. The experience our customers have in and around our products. This could be a small startup with a couple of developers, or could be a cross-functional development team in a large organization — essentially a small group, working towards the same outcome.
从更大的角度来看，我不仅仅是在指公司目标或与高管合作。 我说的是我正在工作的团队。我们正在制造的产品。 客户在我们产品中及周围的经验。 这可能是一个由几个开发人员组成的小型初创公司，也可能是一个大型组织(实际上是一个小组)中的跨职能开发团队，致力于实现相同的结果。
I’ve had the tendency in the past to be attached to what I create. It’s the Ikea effect in practice, something that we are all subject to. We become attached to what we make. Yes, you can be aware of it, but that doesn’t make it go away. Awareness is only the first step.
过去，我倾向于依附于自己的创作。 实际上，这是宜家效应 ，这是我们所有人都应遵守的。 我们变得依恋于我们的创造。 是的，您可以意识到这一点，但这并不能消除它。 意识只是第一步。
I’ve learned that in order to produce the best outcomes, me improving my technical design skills will have much less impact than improving my ability to work better with my team.
我了解到，为了产生最佳结果，提高技术设计技能所产生的影响要小于提高与团队更好地合作的能力。
Below is a list of seven directives from a bunch of books I’ve been reading on the subject (book list at the very bottom of the article). I’ve been employing these where possible, and they’ve had a huge impact. Am I perfect? No. Will I ever be? No, not even close. But I’m getting better, and there’s lots more room to grow. I highly recommend you have a read and see which of these practices you may be able to apply.
以下是我读过的一堆书中的七个伪指令的列表(本文底部的书单)。 我一直在尽可能地采用这些方法，它们产生了巨大的影响。 我完美吗？ 不，我会吗？ 不，甚至没有接近。 但是我越来越好了，还有更多的成长空间。 我强烈建议您阅读并了解您可以应用哪些实践。
一切都是你的问题。 (Everything is your problem.)
I’m not saying you should do every bit of work that crosses your desk. You’ll wear yourself out in no time. But make sure you take the time to respond to everyone when they seek out your help. Assume the best in people.
我并不是说您应该做办公桌上的所有工作。 您会很快就筋疲力尽。 但是请确保当他们寻求帮助时，您花时间对每个人进行回复。 假设最好的人。
If someone has e-mailed you about something you’re not responsible for, remember, they probably don’t know how it works. Educate them. It’ll help everyone the next time.
如果有人通过电子邮件将您不负责的事情发送给您，请记住，他们可能不知道它是如何工作的。 教育他们。 它将在下次帮助所有人。
Being approachable is important if you want to build psychological safety. Don’t scare people off.
如果要建立心理安全，平易近人很重要。 不要吓people人。
慷慨地提供反馈。 (Be generous with giving feedback.)
Giving feedback is free. If someone has done something well, make sure you let them know about it. We’re so quick to receive negative feedback when we’ve done something wrong, so that dishing out praise becomes a gift. It feels good to give positive feedback, and it feels good to receive it — it’s an absolute no-brainer.
提供反馈是免费的。 如果某人做得很好，请确保让他们知道。 当我们做错了事情时，我们是如此之快地收到负面反馈，因此，表扬成为一种礼物。 给出积极的反馈感觉很好，而收到反馈的感觉很好–这是绝对的明智的选择。
始终寻求反馈。 (Always seek out feedback.)
This is the reciprocal of the above point. But an important point to remember is that you’re seeking out the bad, as much as — really more so — than the good. That’s how we learn. Don’t induce confirmation bias and show your work to confirm what you believe. Get people to question it.
这是上述观点的对立面。 但是要记住的重要一点是，您正在寻找坏处，而不是找到好处，甚至更多。 我们就是这样学习的。 不要引起确认偏见并展示您的工作以确认您的信念。 引起人们的质疑。
One good way to get over this is to show your work early enough that you don’t feel too attached and it’s easier to change. Practice shortening your feedback loop. Critique is critical to the design process.
解决这一问题的一种好方法是尽早展示您的作品，以免您感到过于执着，并且更容易更改。 练习缩短反馈循环。 批判对于设计过程至关重要。
不要带任何私人物品。 特别是成功。 (Don’t take anything personally. Especially success.)
Design is all about failing. You’ll make things that are badly implemented, that have no impact, and that ultimately fail. A lot. In fact, even the good products you create will be torn down and built again in another five years (or less). Sometimes the ones we hate are the successful ones. That’s fine! It’s all part of working in this kind of discipline.
设计就是失败。 您将无法正确实施，没有影响，最终失败的事情。 很多。 实际上，即使您创造的优质产品也将在另外五年(或更短的时间内)内被拆毁并重新建造。 有时我们讨厌的人是成功的人。 没关系！ 这是此类学科工作的全部内容。
So just remember, the same rings true when you make something awesome. Enjoy that feeling of building a great product, but remember that one success does not make you a success — stay humble.
因此，请记住，当您做出很棒的事情时，同样如此。 享受打造出色产品的那种感觉，但要记住，成功并不能使您成功-保持谦虚。
It’s your habits that define you — champion the right process time and time again rather than focusing on the outcomes, which can be lucky or arbitrary.
您的习惯决定了您-一次又一次地倡导正确的流程 ，而不是专注于结果 ，这可能是幸运的或任意的。
把你的判断留在门口。 (Leave your judgments at the door.)
Stereotypes are the result of a brain that likes shortcuts. And you know what, sometimes they come in super handy. They certainly kept us alive thousands of years ago. But they aren’t usually symptomatic of a team that’s humming along. Leave them at the door if you want to get your team on-board with your way of thinking.
刻板印象是喜欢捷径的大脑的结果。 而且您知道什么，有时它们会派上用场。 它们无疑使我们几千年前存活了下来。 但是，他们通常不会表现出一支蜂拥而至的团队。 如果您想让您的团队加入您的思维方式，请将他们留在门口。
Dave Grey refers to this as “emptying your cup,” which is a great metaphor. When someone says something that we don’t agree with, there’s a tendency to let your own biases cloud your judgment of them.
戴夫·格雷 ( Dave Gray)将其称为“清空杯子”，这是一个很好的隐喻。 当有人说出我们不同意的话时，就有一种倾向让您自己的偏见笼罩您对他们的判断。
By being conscious of this and actively “emptying your cup” and seeking out their point of view, you can start to see from a different perspective. We lead such narrow lives where we only see a tiny slice of what’s happening in the world. Don’t just think “if I was them.” Start talking to people about their motivations and beliefs and see why they think the way they do.
通过意识到这一点并积极地“清空杯子”并找出他们的观点，您可以开始从不同的角度看待。 我们过着如此狭narrow的生活，在那儿我们只能看到世界上发生的一小部分。 不要只是想“如果我是他们。” 开始与人们谈论他们的动机和信念，并了解他们为什么以自己的方式思考。
多做，少说。 (Do more, say less.)
Ideas are great. Every time I meet people and they hear I’m some kind of “computer-design-developer-tech guy,” I get the inevitable “I’ve got a great idea for an app.” The thing is, these ideas are often great. But as Derek Sivers puts it, great ideas are just a multiplier of execution. So if you never make the app, it’s worth nothing.
想法很棒。 每当我遇到人们时，他们都会听到我是“计算机设计开发技术人员”，所以我不可避免地会说：“我对应用程序有个好主意。” 问题是，这些想法通常很棒。 但是正如Derek Sivers所说，好主意只是执行力的乘积。 因此，如果您从未开发过该应用程序，那么它一文不值。
Once you make the thing (whatever it is) — shout from the rooftops. But until that point, talking about what you’re “going to do” can actually be a hindrance. Check out another insight into that from Derek, below.
制作完东西(无论它是什么)之后，请从屋顶大喊大叫。 但是直到那一点，谈论自己的“打算去做”实际上可能是一个障碍。 请从下面的Derek中进一步了解。
If you don’t watch it, summary quote:
如果您不看，请引用以下内容：
“Telling someone your goal makes it less likely to happen. When you tell someone your goal and they acknowledge it, the mind is tricked into feeling it’s already done.”
“告诉某人您的目标使实现目标的可能性降低。 当您告诉某人您的目标并得到他们的认可时，头脑就会被欺骗去感觉它已经完成。”
Don’t be the person who always talks about doing things and doesn’t execute.
不要成为总是谈论做事而不执行的人。
停止抱怨。 (Stop complaining.)
No one likes working with people who complain. There is nothing to be gained by complaining about things. This one is pretty simple.
没有人喜欢与抱怨的人一起工作。 抱怨是没有任何收获的。 这很简单。
结语 (Wrapping up)
It’s pretty much impossible to strip ego from the equation completely, but trying to eliminate it can have a huge positive impact on your working relationships — it certainly has for me. It’s also stopped me from focusing on the activities that I carry out, and made me think more about the shared outcome. The work improves as a result.
完全摆脱自我的可能性几乎是不可能的，但是试图消除自我会给您的工作关系带来巨大的积极影响，这对我当然是有好处的。 这也阻止了我将精力集中在我进行的活动上，而使我对共享成果有了更多的思考。 结果，工作得到了改善。
“It is sometimes easier to make the world a better place than to prove you have made the world a better place.”
“有时候，使世界变得更美好比证明您使世界变得更美好更容易。”
Let’s face it, making the world a better place is what we are all trying to do, who cares who gets the credit?
让我们面对现实吧，让世界更美好的世界是我们所有人都想做的事，谁在乎谁能获得信誉？
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进一步阅读 (Further Reading)
Ego is the Enemy — Ryan HolidayLiminal Thinking — Dave GreyMindwise — Nicholas EpleyStumbling On Happiness — Daniel Gilbert
自我是敌人 -瑞安· 霍利 (Ryan Holiday)的线性 思维 -戴夫·格雷· 明德维斯 (Dave Gray Mindwise) -尼古拉斯· 艾普利 (Nicholas Epley) 迷恋 幸福 -丹尼尔·吉尔伯特(Daniel Gilbert)
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