1. 从控件绑定的数据源来获取: dataGridView1的数据源是MyTables
DataRowView drv = dataGridView1.SelectedRows[0].DataBoundItem as DataRowView;
int index=MyTables.Rows.IndexOf(drv.Row);
2. 直接前台搞定
if (this.dgvUserInfo.CurrentRow == null) return;
System.Windows.Forms.BindingManagerBase bm = dgvUserInfo.BindingContext[dgvUserInfo.DataSource, dgvUserInfo.DataMember];
DataRow datarow = ((System.Data.DataRowView)bm.Current).Row;
int iUserinfoID = Convert.ToInt32(datarow["iUserinfoID"].ToString());