OptionMenu

@Override
	public boolean onCreateOptionsMenu(Menu menu) {
		MenuInflater inflater = getMenuInflater();
		inflater.inflate(R.menu.carsfriendmenu, menu);
		setMenuBackgroud();
		return super.onCreateOptionsMenu(menu);
	}



	private void setMenuBackgroud() { 
		this.getLayoutInflater().setFactory(new LayoutInflater.Factory() {
			
			@Override
			public View onCreateView(String name, Context context, AttributeSet attrs) {
				if(name.equalsIgnoreCase("com.android.internal.view.menu.IconMenuItemView")){
					LayoutInflater inflater = getLayoutInflater();
					try {
						final View view = inflater.createView(name, null, attrs);
						new Handler().post(new Runnable() {
							@Override
							public void run() {
								view.setBackgroundResource(R.drawable.menuback);
								((TextView)view).setTextColor(Color.WHITE);
								((TextView)view).setTextSize(25);
							}
						});
						return view;
					} catch (InflateException e) {
						e.printStackTrace();
					} catch (ClassNotFoundException e) {
						e.printStackTrace();
					}
				}
				return null;
			}
		});
	}






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carsfriendmenu.xml
<?xml version="1.0" encoding="utf-8"?>
<menu
  xmlns:android="http://schemas.android.com/apk/res/android">
    <item android:title="添加好友"  android:icon="@drawable/addfriend"></item>
    <item android:title="搜索好友" android:icon="@drawable/searchfriend"></item>
    <item android:title="删除记录" android:icon="@drawable/deletehistory"></item>
    <item android:title="设置" android:icon="@drawable/setting"></item>
    <item android:title="更多" android:icon="@drawable/more"></item>
</menu>