1 physical attraction (彼此身体上吸引)
2 shared goals ,intersts, and belief system (了解彼此的理想、兴趣和信仰)
3 mutual respect ,acceptance ,and the desire to please each other (相互尊重、接受,双方有取悦对方的愿望)
4 mutual honesty and trust(相互真诚和信任)
5 realistic expectation for each other and the relationship(对对方有比较现实的期望)
6 a balance of dependence and independence (在依靠和独立间平衡)
7 a cooperative approach to ploblems (共同解决难题)
8 a shared life (生活在一起)