We must interpret a bad temper as a sign of inferiority. Alfred Adler
Overcoming difficulties leads to courage, self-respect, and knowing yourself.
It is very obvious that we are not influenced by "facts" but by our interpretation of the facts.
Play is a child's work and this is not a trivial pursuit.
Everything can always be different!
Time is a great teacher, but unfortunately it kills all its pupils.--Alfred Adler
“当你真正不畏惧什么的时候，你就会说真话。就这么简单。有很多人仅仅是因为一些自己都不知道的东西，就开始说着那些言不由衷的空话套话。我就经常会觉得人怎么想不明白呢？你有什么可畏惧的？‘此处不留爷，自有留爷处’，这个时代早已改变了过去的‘此处不留爷，就是葬身处’，所以我觉得社会要让更多的人意识到，没有什么可畏惧的，少一点畏惧就会多一点真话。” --白岩松
If something causes you more stress than it's worth, get rid of it. --Chris Thomas
穷与富在心不在金。科普医生博雅
接受现实的残酷，才能成熟。--王金现
为什么没有人会对一块石头大吵大闹呢？因为石头的静默令挑舋生事者无从入手。在你可以像大石般沉默时，生事者迟早会失兴致而另去他方。
来自他人的言行，并不可能对你造成伤害﹔你之所以感到受了委曲，只因为你对这些言行介怀。
如果你为了人家的一句话就大发脾气，或者是飘飘若仙，你的心其实是在跟着别人的话走。把自己的快乐托付在别人随便的一句话上面，是很愚蠢的一回事。
爱孩子，是母鸡也会有的。只是，学会爱孩子的艺术，却不是很容易的事情。
在《生命的阳光》中，李恒冷静的叙述道：当我寒窗苦读的希望变成失望，考乡村干部和民办教师成绩虽然不错却无端落选，点起小油灯刚看几页书，书就被父亲抢过去扔在炉子里化为灰烬，一气写了足足10页信笺纸向心仪的木匠女儿袒露心迹，却被她怒气冲冲的当着很多人的面把信撕碎砸在我的脸上，并鄙夷的说我癞蛤蟆想吃天鹅肉时，我上天无路，下地无门，只好一口吞下15粒安眠药。但不仅安眠药不要我，甚至连在瓢泼大雨中发威的雷公电母也不要我，我只好揣着一根绳子来到离村不远的樱桃林里准备结束生命。可是，看着在樱花上叽叽喳喳的麻雀，在花蕊里采蜜的蜜蜂，清香直钻肺腑的樱花，被樱花过滤过的耀眼阳光，在阳光下草丛里自由觅食的小蚂蚁，生命的原动力突然让我幡然醒悟：连蜜蜂蚂蚁麻雀这些卑微的小生命都在大自然的怀抱中活得有滋有味，何况我是人呢？于是，“我在沟里用溪水洗了一把脸，一脸的灿烂，眼睛也似乎亮了许多。
“假如我们今天学个知识，明天就考试，有两种学法：一种是努力学习知识，慢慢掌握，另一种是应试角度，突击做某类型题目。
如果是第一种学法，可能第二天考试得到60分。如果是第二种学法，可能得到80分。但这两种学法在9天之后，却会导致不同结果。如果你以应试角度学，学得不够深入，就会有瓶颈，突破不了，再考只能得到85分。因为知识是慢慢积累、运用而掌握的。而另一种学法，却更扎实，可能会得到100分。
所以说，哪怕你离考试很近很近了，还是应该扎实掌握知识，而不是应试地突击。”-楼天城
王朔说：“孩子给你带来多大的快乐，早就抵消早就超过了你喂她养她的那点奶钱，这快乐不是你能拿钱买的，没听说过获得快乐还让快乐源泉养老的这不是讹人么？她大可不必养我，我不好意思。”
看他这么说：“我干吗不对她宽容？我干吗要对她严厉？我希望她干吗呀？我什么都不希望她。我希望她快快乐乐过完一生，我不要她成功。我最恨这词儿了。”
我觉得中国人的家庭关系不太正常，孩子承担这么多的义务，父母拼命来要求孩子，说什么赢在起跑线上我特别讨厌这种说法，把孩子训练成一个赚钱机器，这就叫成功，表面是为孩子好，其实是想自己将来有个靠山，无情剥夺孩子童年的快乐。
至于内在，王朔在送女儿去美国读书的时候，给出的最重要的理由是保护女儿的自信心和自尊心。
“她是念到中考的时候，我说你不要参加中考了，你要考过去你就是傻子，你要考不过去，你自信心会受到很大打击。所以我送她去了美国念书。”
“我说上学你就是为自尊心学习，你学习不好，老师会当场奚落你，你会很没面子。有些老师就会这一套，打击小孩的自尊心。”
Web/software development is a craft, just like being a musician.
My work should speak for me, not my age.
Frankly, a company that wouldn’t hire me based on my age, and not my demonstrable knowledge/skills is probably not the kind I’d want to work for anyway.
Even if it is as a support, coding can be a huge help to become a top performer/better performer at your job
Expertise is built in increments, so you just have to start and keep going.
You’re only as old as you let yourself feel. You’re at an advantageous position in that you are considering a software career now. Many 20 somethings do not know what they want. You can do it man.
An astute and engaged 50 year old will accomplish more than a dull or disinterested 20 year old.
Fields centered in technology are on a steep ramp of change, which demands a commitment to continuous learning.
“The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago. The second best time is today.”
If a company holds your age against you they are not worth working for anyway.
If not now, then when? You are only going to get older :).
Programming is one of these things that no matter how old you are, if you get good at it, nothing can stop you.
Plenty of time left to start a new career, we’re all probably going to be working into our 70’s anyway so we’re not even half way through our working lives now,
以下言论收集自<https://belitsoft.com/software-developers>
It also depends on your attitude. Don't be the old guy who is down on any new technology and sneers at anyone that uses anything newer than Emacs and C++. Use your experience to make informed decisions about what technology choices to make. If that means sticking with older, proven technologies fine, but do it because it's the right choice not because you want to protect the rapidly obsoleting expertise you spent years building up or because you're scared of some snotty kid with his Node JS and his Go taking your job".
As to technology, take it as it comes. The world is very different today than from when I started (FORTRAN on punched tape), but the changes unrolled over time. On the other hand, the problems are much the same, how do I convert this human requirement into something a computer can do? And how do I avoid making mistakes, and then find the mistakes I inevitably make? Languages, development environments, toolkits, APIs etc. are just means to an end. You learn them when you need them.
I see a software developer as someone who takes a customer requirement and converts it into precise instructions for a computer. And that job is never going to go away. There will always be a need for people who understand, an order of magnitude better than the general public, what computers can and cannot do, and have a knowledge of a large number of tools (libraries, APIs, interfaces, whatever) which can be used to make that happen.
Every two years, there is another “game changing” platform. Don’t panic. Take the 3 or 4 days it takes to learn the new programming environment and go about your business. Over 30 years, I had to relearn almost everything about every 4 years more or less. I work with a team of six developers from ages 48 to 56. All of us have totally retrained our skills from 3 to 8 times.
If you like people, you will like managing people. If you don’t like people, you will not be a successful manager.
"Don’t listen to anyone who says you’ll never be worth anything unless you started programming in junior high. The tech field is big, and there’s room for a lot of people. When I was younger, it was tough admitting to things I didn’t know. Now that I’m older, it’s easier to deal with that initial frustration".
When you turn 30, you have no experience with being 30. Nobody has any experience with the age they become, which means we’re all newbies at life.
理想的程序员，和理想的建筑师、理想的财务师、理想的按摩师没有任何的差别，他们本质上都是一群手艺人，只是一门技术。
From <http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_1548994530102wce2.html>
“You can fail at what you don't want, so you might as well take a chance on doing what you love.”-Jim Carrey
I think everybody should get rich and famous and do everything they ever dreamed of so they can see that it’s not the answer. –Jim Carrey
If you aren’t in the moment, you are either looking forward to uncertainty, or back to pain and regret. –Jim Carrey
I wake up some mornings and sit and have my coffee and look out at my beautiful garden, and I go, “Remember how good this is. Because you can loose it.” – Jim Carrey
Maybe other people will try to limit me but I don’t limit myself. –Jim Carrey
I tend to stay up late, not because I'm partying but because it's the only time of the day when I'm alone and don't have to be performing. -Jim Carrey
I don't think human beings learn anything without desperation. Desperation is a necessary ingredient to learning anything or creating anything. Period. If you ain't desperate at some point, you ain't interesting. -Jim Carrey
I know this sounds strange, but as a kid, I was really shy. Painfully shy. The turning point was freshman year, when I was the biggest geek alive. No one, I mean no one, even talked to me. -Jim Carrey
I got a lot of support from my parents. That's the one thing I always appreciated. They didn't tell me I was being stupid; they told me I was being funny. -Jim Carrey
The difficulties you meet will resolve themselves as you advance. Proceed, and light will dawn, and shine with increasing clearness on your path. –Jim Rohn
If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for your? Not much. –Jim Rohn
Success is nothing more than a few simple disciplines, practiced every day; while failure is simply a few errors in judgement, repeated every day. It is the accumulative weight of our disciplines and our judgements that leads us either to fortune or failure. – Jim Rohn
Learning is the beginning of wealth. Learning is the beginning of health. Learning is the beginning of spirituality. Searching and learning is where the miracle process all begins. –Jim Rohn
Successful people have libraries. The rest have big screen TVs. –Jim Rohn
If you don’t like how things are, change it! You’re not a tree. -Jim Rohn
Success is steady progress toward one’s personal goals. –Jim Rohn
You must either modify your dreams or magnify your skills. –Jim Rohn
我最讨厌那种说教，什么“吃得苦中苦，方为人上人”仿佛青春的全部价值就在于为将来的成功而苦苦奋斗。在所有的人生模式中，为了未来而牺牲现在是最坏的一种，它把幸福永远向后推延，实际上是取消了幸福。-崔永元
没有知识的人才在乎长相。-崔永元
紧张怎么办？
我的心理医生教过我,特别简单：人为什么要紧张？就是有使不完的劲，所以要求你攥住拳头，咬紧牙关，绷紧关节，自己跟自己较劲，连气都不要喘，就是把你全身的劲都用尽，你只要做2到3回，你就只能松弛了，因为你没有劲了，紧张不起来了。
这是物理的办法,特别有用。-崔永元
有时候，我们活得很累，并非生活过于刻薄，而是我们太容易被外界的氛围所感染，被他人的情绪所左右。行走在人群中，我们总是感觉有无数穿心掠肺的目光，有很多飞短流长的冷言，最终乱了心神，渐渐被缚于自己编织的一团乱麻中。其实你是活给自己看的，没有多少人能够把你留在心上。-白岩松
Fear doesn’t exist anywhere except in the mind.-Dale Carnegie
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