通过子窗体操作父窗体的列设置，来改变列顺序和显示问题

创建子窗体页面，创建委托事件

public partial class ColumnSetForm : Form
    {
        public IList<ColumnSet> columnSet;//传来的列设置数组
        //委托
        public delegate void DoActionForEdit(IList<ColumnSet> columnSet);
        public DoActionForEdit RefreshForEdit;
        public ColumnSetForm()
        {
            InitializeComponent();
            this.dgvColSet.AutoGenerateColumns = false;
        }

        private void ColumnSetForm_Load(object sender, EventArgs e)
        {
            dgvColSet.DataSource = columnSet;
        }

        private void buttonSave_Click(object sender, EventArgs e)
        {
            this.RefreshForEdit(columnSet);
            this.Close();
        }

        private void buttonCancle_Click(object sender, EventArgs e)
        {
            this.Close();
        }

        //列上移
        private void buttonup_Click(object sender, EventArgs e)
        {
            if (dgvColSet.SelectedRows.Count > 0 && dgvColSet.SelectedRows[0].Index > -1)
            {
                int rowindex=dgvColSet.SelectedRows[0].Index;
                var targetset = columnSet.First(p => p.ColumnSetName == dgvColSet.SelectedRows[0].Cells["ColumnSetName"].Value.ToString());
                if (targetset.ColumnSetIndex > 1)
                {
                    var changeset = columnSet.First(p => p.ColumnSetIndex == targetset.ColumnSetIndex - 1);
                    targetset.ColumnSetIndex--;
                    changeset.ColumnSetIndex++;
                    dgvColSet.DataSource = columnSet.OrderByDescending(p => p.ColumnSetIndex).Reverse().ToList();
                    dgvColSet.Rows[rowindex-1].Selected = true;
                }
            }
        }
        //列下移
        private void buttondown_Click(object sender, EventArgs e)
        {
            if (dgvColSet.SelectedRows.Count > 0 && dgvColSet.SelectedRows[0].Index > -1 && dgvColSet.SelectedRows[0].Index < dgvColSet.Rows.Count-1)
            {
                int rowindex = dgvColSet.SelectedRows[0].Index;
                var targetset = columnSet.First(p => p.ColumnSetName == dgvColSet.SelectedRows[0].Cells["ColumnSetName"].Value.ToString());
                if (targetset.ColumnSetIndex > 1)
                {
                    var changeset = columnSet.First(p => p.ColumnSetIndex == targetset.ColumnSetIndex + 1);
                    targetset.ColumnSetIndex++;
                    changeset.ColumnSetIndex--;
                    dgvColSet.DataSource = columnSet.OrderByDescending(p => p.ColumnSetIndex).Reverse().ToList();
                    dgvColSet.Rows[rowindex +1].Selected = true;
                }
            }
        }

        private void dgvColSet_RowPostPaint(object sender, DataGridViewRowPostPaintEventArgs e)
        {
            ShowSequence.showDataGridViewSequence(dgvColSet,e);
        }
    }

父窗体中加载子窗体

  private void tmPlanQuery_Click(object sender, EventArgs e)
        { 
             
            this.Cursor = Cursors.WaitCursor;
            ColumnSetForm frm1 = new ColumnSetForm();
            IList<ColumnSet> ColumnSets = new List<ColumnSet>();
            foreach (DataGridViewColumn column in this.dataGridView.Columns)
            {
                ColumnSet columnSet = new ColumnSet();
                columnSet.ColumnSetName = column.Name;
                columnSet.ColumnSetIndex = column.DisplayIndex;
                columnSet.ColumnSetVisible = column.Visible;
                columnSet.ColumnSetWidth = column.Width;
                columnSet.ColumnSetText = column.HeaderText;
                ColumnSets.Add(columnSet);
            }
            ColumnSets = ColumnSets.OrderByDescending(p => p.ColumnSetIndex).Reverse().ToList();
            frm1.RefreshForEdit += this.RefreshForShow;
            frm1.columnSet = ColumnSets;
            frm1.ShowDialog();
            this.Cursor = Cursors.Default;
            


        }

        #region 调整完以后，对界面进行刷新
        public void RefreshForShow(IList<ColumnSet> columnSets)
        {
            foreach (DataGridViewColumn column in this.dataGridView.Columns)
            {
                foreach (ColumnSet columnset in columnSets)
                {
                    if (column.Name == columnset.ColumnSetName)
                    {
                        column.Visible = columnset.ColumnSetVisible;
                        column.DisplayIndex = columnset.ColumnSetIndex;
                        column.Width = columnset.ColumnSetWidth;
                        continue;
                    }
                }
            }
        }
        #endregion

其中dataGridview 为要实现列设置的表

子窗体为：