I call CMFCToolBar::SetMenuSizes before I call CMFCToolBar::CreateEx to create the toolbar. Then, instead of calling LoadToolBar I called LoadToolBarEx and passed to it a CMFCToolBarInfo struct which I left all NULL except for the m_uiMenuResID variable which I set to be the resource ID of my smaller icons.
Problem solved! =)) I now have a normal sized menu and a big chunky toolbar :P
最后的解决方法是建立一个toolbar用小图标的,然后和菜单关联起来。