正解:GetSysColor(COLOR_3DFACE)
网上其它解释如
GetSysColor(COLOR_WINDOW);
::GetClassLong(hWnd, GCL_HBRBACKGROUND);
HBRUSH brDlgBk = (HBRUSH)::GetSysColorBrush(CTLCOLOR_DLG);
LOGBRUSH lb;
GetObject(brDlgBk, sizeof(lb), &lb);
COLORREF cr = lb.lbColor;
都不行