一、用户添加删除好友是发送Presence包,由PresenceSubscribeHandler和IQRosterHandler处理
<iq id="fDsuy-48" type="set"><query xmlns="jabber:iq:roster"><item jid="shiwenli01@shiwenli.com" name="shiwenli01"><group>Friends</group></item></query></iq>
<presence id="fDsuy-49" to="shiwenli01@shiwenli.com" type="subscribe"></presence>