some wrote ,"Friendships are, form year to year ,the best of all life's treasures "But being a good friend to someone is never simple or easy. It requires wisdom and lots of hard work. Let’s look at some ways we can build successful friendships.
GIVE FREEDOM: Be willing to allow your friend to enjoy the company of other friends, even without you. Don’t be possive.Demanding that a friend give his full attention to you can spoil a relationship. Let your friend decide for himself whom to spend time with.
SHARE CONTROL: When you try to be in control all the time, you cause your friend to feel penned in. Instead of making all the choices, ask your friend what she would like to do. Give her a chance to choose her preferences.
SHOW RESPECT: In a successful friendship each friend must consider the other equal. Listen attentively when your friend shares something with you and take seriously what he says. Treat him with respect in the company of others. Don't gossip or laugh at him behind his back.
INITIATE: In a strong friendship, both people need to invest their time and energy planning activities and initiating conversations. When one person does it all, the friendship is lopsided.
BE UNDERSTANDING: We all do things that are wrong or dump at times. As a good friend, try to understand why the other person has made a mistake. Dont’t be tempted to shout,” How could you do that?” Instead, help your friend work through the consequences of her mistakes.
BE CARING: When a friend is hurting or sick, he may not be very much to be around. But he still needs your friendship. A telephone call, a special gift or some other thoughtful gestures will show your friend you care.
HAVE FUN: Relationsships where only problems are shared can become gloomy and depressing. Bring laughter, joy and even silliness to your friendships.
Building a successful friendship is never easy, but it's always worth the effort! Just remember: to have a friend, you must be a friend.