<body>
<select name="sex" id="sex">
<option value="1">男</option>
<option value="2">女</option>
</select>
</body>
<script>
$(document).ready(function(){
var sexFor = $("#sex");
var isMarried = "1";
sexFor.find('option[value="'+isMarried+'"]').attr('selected', true);
});
</script>