Your screenshot has the android 1.6. style. If you are using a tabhost on a newer version and simply put it on the bottom of the screen it will look very much like the iphone version.
I wouldn't change to much at the UI of android simply give it a resemblance to the iphone look and feel(same icons) and stay with the rest in the android style. This will make the app look familiar to the users.
To achieve the same look for the icons just use an xml definition of you drawable with a selected and a not selected state of the button like it looks on the iphone. To set an icon use the setIndicator method of the tabspec.
You can somewhat style the tabhost by setting a background or a style for the tabwidget. But the actual inner part of the widget will be drawn above you style and background