Young boy

Young man why are you eating that fish?
He says,"Don't tell me you love the fish."
You love yourself
Love is a wprd that 
in our culture,has almost lost it's meaning 
Now herewith an interest story about
the rabbi of Kotzk
who came across the young man who was
that he was eating
And he said
young man why are you eating that fish
The young man says
Because l love fish
Oh you love the fish
thats why you took it out of the water
and killed it and boiled it
He says Don't tell me you love the fish 
You love yourself
and because the fish tastes good to you
therefore you took it out of the watter
and killed it and boiled it
So mush of what is love 
is fish love 
And so
young couplr falls in love
Young man and young woman fall in love
what does that mean?
That means that he say in this woman
someone who he felt
could provide him
with all his physical and emotional needs
and she felt in this man
somebody she fells that she can write
that was love
but each one is looking out for their own needs
it's not love for the other
The other person becomes a vehicle
for my gratification
Too mush of what is calledd love
is fish love 
An external love is not on what I'm going to get
but what i'm going to give
We had in ethicist
rabbi Dessler who said
The people make a serious mistake
in thinking that you give
to those whom you love 
And the real answer is
you love those to whom you give 
His point is
if I give something to you
I've invested myself in you
And since self-love is a given
everynody loves themselves
now that part of me has become in you
there's part of me in you that l love
So,,,true love is a love of giving 
not a love of receiving