java TCP socket 多文件传输问题

//...发送数据核心代码...
String filePath=fileBean.getFilePath();
File file=new File(filePath);
try {
if(file.exists()) {
fis= new DataInputStream(new BufferedInputStream(new FileInputStream(filePath)));
clientMonitor.getFileSessionBean().getTransferFilebean(fileLabel).setTransferState(1);
long passedlen = 0;
while (true) {
try {
int bufferSize = 1024*8;
byte[] buf = new byte[bufferSize];
FileTransferDataMessage dataMessage=new FileTransferDataMessage(fileLabel);
int read = 0;
if (fis != null) {
read = fis.read(buf);
//dataMessage.setBufferSize(fis.read(dataMessage.getBuf()));
passedlen+=read;
//passedlen+=dataMessage.getBufferSize();
}
if (read == -1) {
break;
}
//FileTransferDataMessage dataMessage=new FileTransferDataMessage(fileLabel);
dataMessage.setBufferSize(read);
for(int j=0;j<buf.length;j++) {
dataMessage.getBuf()[j]=buf[j];
}
//dataMessage.setBuf(buf);//直接复制失败
clientMonitor.getFileSessionBean().getTransferFilebean(fileLabel).setTransfered(passedlen);

clientMonitor.getFileSessionBean().getClient().sendMessage(dataMessage);//发送数据

} catch (IOException ex) {
ex.printStackTrace();
}
}
//发送文件传输结束消息
FileTransferEndMessage endMessage=new FileTransferEndMessage(fileLabel);
clientMonitor.getFileSessionBean().getClient().sendMessage(endMessage);

//设置文件传输完成状态
clientMonitor.getFileSessionBean().getTransferFilebean(fileLabel).setTransferState(2);
try {

//关闭FIS
fis.close();
} catch (IOException ex) {
ex.printStackTrace();
}
}else {
System.out.println("文件不存在....");
}
} catch (FileNotFoundException ex) {
ex.printStackTrace();
}

//现在又两个问题：
1.
for(int j=0;j<buf.length;j++) {
dataMessage.getBuf()[j]=buf[j];
}
//dataMessage.setBuf(buf);//直接复制失败
如果采用直接赋值，对方接收到的数据是一样的

2。重点问题
每次传输到50M左右就出现异常 ：
虽然第一反应是jvm的设置，但我想应该是程序的问题；这还只是传一个文件，如果要同时传输多个文件.....头痛