Perfectionism

The greatest mistake a man can make is to be afraid of making one.

If you want to increase your success rate , double your failure rate.

Definition：An incapacitating fear of failure that permeates our lives,especially those areas that we care most.

Emphasizing effort gives a child a variable that they can control.They come to see themselves as in control of their success.Emphasizing natural intelligence takes it out of the child's control , and it provides no good recipe for responding to a failure.

When you praise kids' intelligence and then they fail , they think they're not smart anymore , and they loose interest in their work , in contrast , kids praised for effort show no impairment  and often are energized in the face of difficulty.

3P: Permission , acceptance , respect for reality ; Positive , what is the benefit here ; Perspective , is this really going to matter a year from now