你不容错过的30个人生哲理！！！（

Since today is my 30th birthday I thought it fitting to share 30 things I understand now that were complete mysteries to me just a few short years ago. These are simple lessons about life in general that I picked up while traveling, living in different cities, working for different companies (and myself), and meeting remarkable and unusual people everywhere in between.

走过人生第30个年头，多少会有一些感慨，而能在此和你们一同分享这30个人生真理，实在是再好不过了。我曾经也困惑过、彷徨过，然而，我渐渐在一些经历中悟出了些许真谛，有的是在旅行中的灵光一现，有的是生活在不同城市时的所见所闻，抑或是在不同公司工作时所习得的经验，当然啦，也包括和那些卓越不凡的伟大人物的结识，从他们的身上，我也学到了很多。现在，我就为大家献上我悟出的30条人生真理。

1. There comes a point in life when you get tired of chasing everyone and trying to fix everything, but it’s not giving up. It’s realizing you don’t need certain people and things and the drama they bring.

当你厌倦于追逐某个人或者试着去适应某些事物时，这并不代表着你在自暴自弃。只是你明白了，你就是你自己，而那些人、那些事以及他们所带来的东西并不是你想要的。

2. If a person wants to be a part of your life they will make an obvious effort to do so. Don’t bother reserving a space in your heart for people who do not make an effort to stay.

如果一个人想要成为你生命中的一部分，他们的努力，你会看得到。相反的，在你的世界里，你也不必苦心为那些不重视你的人留有一席之地。

3. If you want to fly, you have to give up the things that weigh you down – which is not always as obvious and easy as it sounds.

如果你想飞，你必须放弃阻碍你腾空的东西。这听上去容易，但做起来却很难。

4. Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing.

即使做一件事情错了十次，也比什么都不做来得强。

5. Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success. You don’t fail by falling down. You fail by never getting back up. Sometimes you just have to forget how you feel, remember what you deserve, and keep pushing forward.

每一次的成功背后总是有着一连串的失败，而每一次的失败却使你离成功更近一步。摔倒了，并不意味着你失败了。真正的失败，是你摔倒之后再也没有站起来。有时候，忘记你的感受，记住你应得的，然后继续前进，这就是你该做的。

6. When you get to know people with different ethnic backgrounds, from different cities and countries, who live at various socioeconomic levels, you begin to realize that everyone basically wants the same things. They want validation, love, happiness, fulfillment and hopes for a better future. The way they pursue these desires is where things branch off, but the fundamentals are the same. You can relate to almost everyone everywhere if you look past the superficial facades that divide us.

当你认识了来自不同种族、不同城市、不同国家、不同社会阶层的人后，你会明白，人们最根本的需求都是一致的。那就是被肯定、爱或者被爱、获得幸福、得到满足以及对未来美好生活的向往。尽管他们追求的方式不同，但是本质是不变的。当你透过表象看到本质时，你会发现世界各地的人都是相通的。

7. The more things you own, the more your things own you. Less truly gives you more freedom.

拥有越多，限制越多。反之，你将获得更多自由。

8. While you’re busy looking for the perfect person, you’ll probably miss the imperfect person who could make you perfectly happy. This is as true for friendships as it is for intimate relationships. Finding a companion or a friend isn’t about trying to transform yourself into the perfect image of what you think they want. It’s about being exactly who you are and then finding someone who appreciates that.

当你在寻找最好的那个人时，你可能会错过那个不怎么完美却可以让你真正快乐的人。友情或者其它亲密的关系都是如此。寻找伴侣或是朋友，并不是要你变成你以为他们会喜欢的那类人。就做你自己，你会找到那个欣赏你的人。

9. Relationships must be chosen wisely. It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company. There’s no need to rush. If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason.

请慎重选择你的人际关系，宁缺毋滥。没有必要操之过急，不是不来，只是时候未到。相信你一定会在对的时间遇上对的人。

10. Making a thousand friends is not a miracle. A miracle is making one friend who will stand by your side when thousands are against you.

有一千个朋友并不是什么了不起的事儿。真正了不起的是，有那么一个朋友，在其他人都背弃你的时候，始终站在你的身边支持你。

11. Someone will always be better looking. Someone will always be smarter. Someone will always be more charismatic. But they will never be you – with your exact ideas, knowledge and skills.

总会有人比你漂亮、比你聪明、比你有魅力。但是他们终究不是你，也同样不会拥有你独有的思想、知识和技能。

12. Making progress involves risk. Period. You can’t make it to second base with your foot on first.

前进的路上总会存在风险。这毋庸置疑。总不见得你脚还踩在一垒上就想着跑到二垒去吧。

13. Every morning you are faced with two choices: You can aimlessly stumble through the day not knowing what’s going to happen and simply react to events at a moment’s notice, or you can go through the day directing your own life and making your own decisions and destiny.

每天早上醒来你都有两个选择：一是碌碌无为、虚度光阴，等到事情迫在眉睫了才勉强去应对。而另一种选择是，把命运掌握在你自己的手里，你的人生你做主。

14. Everyone makes mistakes. If you can’t forgive others, don’t expect others to forgive you. To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover the prisoner was you.

人无完人，是人都会犯错。你不去原谅别人的过错，凭什么奢望别人会原谅你？原谅，不仅仅是对他人的谅解，也是对自己的宽恕。

15. It’s okay to fall apart for a little while. You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well. You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.

休息是为了走得更远，偶尔崩溃一下也未尝不可。不要总是假装自己很坚强，无谓地去证明一切都很好。也不必太在意别人的看法，想哭就哭，谁说流泪对身体不好呢？但记住，哭完了，请你继续微笑着面对人生。

16.We sometimes do things that are permanently foolish just because we are temporarily upset. A lot of heartache can be avoided if you learn to control your emotions.
有时候我们会因为一时的失意做出让我们抱憾终身的事情。学会控制你的情绪，你就不会为很多无谓的事情心痛了。

17.Someone else doesn’t have to be wrong for you to be right. There are many roads to what’s right. You cannot judge others by your own past. They are living a different life than you. What might be good for one person may not be good for another. What might be bad for one person might change another person’s life for the better. You have to allow people to make their own mistakes and their own decisions.
纵然你是对的，你也不能全盘否定别人。正确的定义有很多。你不能将你的价值观强加在别人身上。每个人都是不同的。对于这个人而言这是对的，但对那个人却不一定。同样的，也许对某人不利的却改善了另一个人的一生。你得允许别人犯错，也要允许他们自己做决定。

18.Nobody is perfect, and nobody deserves to be perfect. Nobody has it easy. You never know what people are going through. Every one of us has issues. So don’t belittle yourself or anyone else. Everybody is fighting their own unique war.
人无完人，也没有必须完美。每个人过得都不容易。你不会知道他们都经历了些什么。每个人都有自己要去做的事情。所以，不要轻视你自己或者他人。每个人都有自己要去应对的战争。

19.A smile doesn’t always mean a person is happy. Sometimes it simply means they are strong enough to face their problems.
有时候，微笑，并不代表快乐。仅仅说明面对困难，我们足够坚强。

20.The happiest people I know keep an open mind to new ideas and ventures, use their leisure time as a means of mental development, and love good music, good books, good pictures, good company and good conversation. And oftentimes they are also the cause of happiness in others – me in particular.
我认识的最快乐的人，他们思想开放、敢于冒险；他们会利用闲暇时光来提升心智，热爱高雅的音乐、有深度的书籍、精美的画作、杰出的工作伙伴还有睿智的谈话。通常，他们也是其他人快乐的源泉——对我尤其如此。

21.You can’t take things too personally. Rarely do people do things because of you. They do things because of them.
你不能太主观臆断。没有人是生下来就为你而活的。他们的所作所为也是为了他们自己。

22.Feelings change, people change, and time keeps rolling. You can hold on to past mistakes or you can create your own happiness. A smile is a choice, not a miracle. True happiness comes from within. Don’t make the mistake of waiting on someone or something to come along and make you happy.
情变了、人变了、而时间依然在向前奔跑。你可以选择继续沉溺于过去的失败，或是开创你自己新的幸福。微笑，只是一个选择，不是奇迹。真正的幸福是发自内心的。不要以为会有某个人或某件事来给你幸福。

23.It’s much harder to change the length of your life than it is to change the depth of it.
我们无法改变人生的长度，却可以改变它的深度。

24.You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.最终，那些你后悔“没做”的事情，总是比“做过”的事情要多。

25.When you stop chasing the wrong things you give the right things a chance to catch you.
当你不再执迷不悟时，你给了自己一个机会，去走上正确的道路。

26.One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else.
人生一大难事，就是做你自己。因为总是有那么多的因素让你变得和别人一样。

27.Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things.
珍惜不起眼的“小”，因为，有一天，当你回首往事，你会发现那些看似微不足道的“小”，才是真正的“大”。

28.Anyone can make a difference. Making one person smile can change the world. Maybe not the whole world, but their world.
人人都能改变世界。让人微笑并不会改变整个世界，但会改变他（她）自己的世界。

29.Everything is a life lesson. Everyone you meet, everything you encounter, etc. They’re all part of the learning experience we call ‘life.’ Never forget to acknowledge the lesson, especially when things don’t go your way. If you don’t get a job that you wanted or a relationship doesn’t work, it only means something better is out there waiting. And the lesson you just learned is the first step towards it.
生活中，到处都是学堂。每一个你遇见的人、每一件你经历的事情等等，它们共同组成了这样一个大学堂，我们称之为“人生”。你应该感谢它们，特别是当你遇到不顺时。如果你找不到心仪的工作，人际关系不和谐，不要担心，这意味着有更好的正在远处等着你。就在刚才，你已经学会了一课，那就是勇敢得迈出第一步。

30.Regardless of how filthy your past has been, your future is still spotless. Don’t start your day with the broken pieces of yesterday. Every day is a fresh start. Each day is a new beginning. Every morning we wake up is the first day of the rest of our life.
不管你的过去有多糟糕，你的未来仍是一尘未染的。不要带着昨日的残片来开心今天的生活。每一天都是新的开始。每天早上醒来，又是余下人生的第一天。