a personality that people admire

There are many kinds of real and alleged personalities. Perhaps one of the commonest and the most unconscious groupings is

1.       people I like,and

2.       people I don’t like.

This classification obviously does not get at the heart of the problem, because it is entirely personal and subjective. This type of egocentric classification is unscientific and, in general, illogical. Your dislike of an individual, for instance, may be based on some imagined wrong he has done to you, or the association of his name or appearance with someone else whom you dislike.

In this connection it is well to remind you that, no matter what you do to improve your personality, there always will be someone who does not like you. You can’t mold a personality that will be uniformly desirable in everybody’s eyes.

Nevertheless, as we shall see farther on, there are some kinds of personalities that are almost universally disliked, and some kinds that are admired by the great majority of people.  

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 1.unconscious  adj.不省人事, 未发觉的, 无意识的

 2. egocentric  adj.自我中心的, 利己主义的 n.利己主义者

3. logical  adj.合乎逻辑的, 合理

4. mold  n.模子, 铸型 vt.浇铸, 塑造

5. uniformly  adv.一律地, 均一地

6. universally  adv.普遍地,全体地,到处

7. farther on  更远些;再往前些;(书中说明等)在后面, 在下面

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人们常常地把人的个性看做很多类.其实可能最普遍的在无意之中区分的是:

1.这个人是我喜欢的.

2.这个人我不喜欢.

这种类型划分明显地没有从心底认真考虑,是因为带上了个人的主观意见.这样以自我为中心的判断是非常不科学的,但是同时也是符合逻辑的.例如,你不喜欢某个人,也许只是因为你认为他曾对你做错了什么,而其实他并没有做;或者是因为他的名字或相貌让你联想起另外一个你讨厌的人.

在这复杂的关系里,其实也能很好地提醒你,不管你怎么提高你的个性修为,总是有那么些人始终不喜欢你的.你不可能按照每个人的心里想法去塑造一个大家都喜欢的人.

尽管这样,我们能够看地更远一点,的确有一些性格是大家几乎都不喜欢的,同时也有一些性格能够被大众所接受与喜爱.