Control What You Can Control

      We are not gods, we can not control everything.
      We are individual persons. Though we can interact with other people around us and thus more or less affect their behaviours, what they think or do are eventually determined by themselves not us.
      In fact, this applies not only to others but also to ourselves. According to a report, as to our own thoughts or behaviours, 50 percent are determined by our physical characteristics, 25 percent are determined by environments and the other 25 percent can be determined by ourselves. So, only 25 percent  of ourselves can actually be controlled by us and for the majority, we can do nothing about. This is why we some time need medicines to help us control ourselves.
      The bottom line is that there's no shame in failure as long as you have done well in what you can control. The real shame lies in the fact that you failed the 25 percent. What "do your best" really means is "control what you can control".