<UserControl>
<UserControl.Resources>
<ResourceDictionary>
<ResourceDictionary.MergedDictionaries>
<ResourceDictionary Source="TextBlocks.xaml"/>
</ResourceDictionary.MergedDictionaries>
</ResourceDictionary>
</UserControl.Resources>
<TabItem>
<TabItem.Header>
<TextBlock Style="{StaticResource TabItemHeaderStyle}" Text="xxx" ToolTip="xxx"/>
</TabItem.Header>
</TabItem>
</UserControl>
in TextBlocks.xaml, customize header style for selection behaviour.
<ResourceDictionary
xmlns="http://schemas.microsoft.com/winfx/2006/xaml/presentation"
xmlns:x="http://schemas.microsoft.com/winfx/2006/xaml">
<Style x:Key="TabItemHeaderStyle" TargetType="{x:Type TextBlock}">
<Style.Triggers>
<DataTrigger Binding="{Binding IsSelected, RelativeSource={RelativeSource FindAncestor, AncestorType={x:Type TabItem}}}" Value="True">
<Setter Property="Foreground" Value="#1fa5d8"/>
<Setter Property="FontWeight" Value="Bold"/>
</DataTrigger>
<DataTrigger Binding="{Binding IsSelected, RelativeSource={RelativeSource FindAncestor, AncestorType={x:Type TabItem}}}" Value="False">
<Setter Property="Foreground" Value="#4c4c4c"/>
<Setter Property="FontWeight" Value="Normal"/>
</DataTrigger>
</Style.Triggers>
</Style>
</ResourceDictionary>