[生活感悟]不生孩子有什么坏处？

不生孩子有什么坏处？

对于没有孩子的成年人来说，时间的变化是不同的。

• I’ve noticed that I have a very different sense of time passing since I’m not attached to the school calendar. I tend to not notice it passing as much. And then abruptly, it seems to catch up to me.
  我发现，由于我不再受制于学校的校历，我对于时间的流逝的感觉有很大的不同。我不太注意时间过去了多少。然后突然之间，我意识到时间已经流逝了很多。

• Without milestones like we have in ages 0-25. ALL information of a given day in an adult life routine is often considered “useless” and is thrown out by our stupid ass brains. The result: time passes faster.
  因为成年生活中，没有了像0到25岁期间那样明显的里程碑。成年人日常生活中某一天的所有信息往往被视为“无用”的，并被我们愚蠢的大脑所抛弃。结果就是：时间过得更快了。

• By forcing ourselves out of our routines as adults, you can slow time back down by trying new things or learning a new skill. These create a new list of milstones we use to measure time with, allowing our minds to become more aware of the passage of time.
  通过迫使自己打破成年生活的常规，尝试新事物或学习新技能，你可以让时间慢下来。这些新事物和新技能为我们创造了一个衡量时间的新里程碑列表，让我们的大脑更加意识到时间的流逝。

• This is a huge one. Kids are the living proof that time is passing quickly. I haven’t seen a friend in 15 years. Their baby is now getting excited to learn to drive, and visiting colleges.
  这一点至关重要。孩子们是时间流逝快速的活生生证据。我已经有15年没有见到一个朋友了，他的孩子现在已经迫不及待地想要学习开车，参观大学了。

• It’s not the schedule, it’s the fact that you’re having fewer milestone moments. School and children create those for you, without them you need to be more active and intentional about having memorable experiences regularly.
  其实并非日程安排的问题，而是你经历的里程碑式的时刻越来越少了。学校和孩子会为你创造这些时刻，没有它们，你就需要更加主动、有意识地定期创造一些难忘的经历。

孤独者

• If something breaks in your house, you have only yourself to blame.
  如果你家里出了什么事，那只能怪你自己了。

• According to my dad, if he didn’t have kids, no one would talk to him. Which is true.
  据我爸爸说，如果他没有孩子，没有人会和他说话。这是真的。

• Omg, I’m sorry about it, but it sounds like Michael Scott from the office, when he said he wanted to have 100 kids, so he could have 100 friends
  天啊，我很抱歉，但听起来像是办公室里的迈克尔·斯科特，他说他想生100个孩子，这样他就可以有100个朋友。

• Before remotes were invented, kids were the remote.
  在遥控器发明之前，孩子是遥控器。

• I never considered that TVs and remotes weren’t invented at the same time. That’s so funny.
  我从没想过电视和遥控器不是同时发明的。太有趣了。

• One time my mom had me hold the hanger that was attached to the antenna “just for ten minutes” while trying to see what the weather was going to be on the news.
  有一次，我妈妈让我拿着天线上的挂钩“仅仅十分钟”，试图看看新闻上的天气如何。

• Can’t use the kids as an excuse to get out of social engagements you don’t want to go to.
  不能以孩子为借口退出你不想参加的社交活动。

• lol kids force you to go to social engagements you don’t want to go to.
  哈哈，孩子们强迫你去参加你不想参加的社交活动。

• Being picked for over time, on call, weekend shift, and holidays because you don’t have kids… Everyone else gets way more consideration, you’re inherently always drawing the short stick.
  因为没有孩子，所以总是被选中加班、值班、周末轮班，以及在节假日工作……其他人总能得到更多的考虑，你注定总是抽到下下签。

• No one to avenge your death or finish your life’s work.
  没有人可以为你的死复仇或完成你一生的工作。

• In general you lose all your friends who have kids. Parents socialise when the kids play etc, and you aren’t invited so you miss out. Eventually you stop getting invited to most things because you’re just not around enough to be planned in.
  一般来说，你会失去所有有孩子的朋友。父母们会在孩子们玩耍的时候进行社交，而你不会被邀请参加，所以你也会错过这些活动。最终，由于你出现的次数不够多，大多数人也不会再邀请你参加他们的活动。

• My dad jokes are wasted.
  我爸爸的笑话都白费了。

reference

@misc{BibEntry2024Mar,
title = {{r/AskReddit - What are the cons of NOT having kids?}},
journal = {reddit},
year = {2024},
month = mar,
urldate = {2024-03-26},
language = {english},
note = {[Online; accessed 26. Mar. 2024]},
url = {https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1bnpbv7/what_are_the_cons_of_not_having_kids}
}