The Road Less Traveled and Beyond

 Poeple all have criminal thinking.and the critiacal thinking is from criminal thinking.People always think they are the victim,and not taking the responsibility for their choices.So they are without investing in the future or taking into account the consequence of one's actions.

 

people who have criminal thinking always have a snse of entitlement, they complain and protest about the lack of opportunities, and they have had in life because of their ethnic and fimily background.They discount their own failure to put in the effort requireed to improve their lives.

The criminal thinking is problematic when people are willing to violate others by discrimination,exploitation and denying them the same rights, opportunities and access to valued resources.

think too little

People have healthy illusions,they give us hope and keep us going, encouraging growth.

And illusions are not totally bad, it can help us, it can also block our way.

Neurosis itself ultimately becomes the biggest problem,it is a kind of chronic mental illness.

 

think too much

There are other times when people may seek to damage us for daring to think well.

People who think too little is easy to be control by parents or employers or our government.

If we choose to think for ourselves, we must be braced for backlash. We may be presumed to be on the fringes of mainstream society , regarded as different and abnormal in the worst sense of the word.

We are able to change and grow throughout our lifetimes,not just in teenager time.

THE GOOD , THE BAD , AND THE IN-BETWEEN 

It's a true saying that you are what you think.

There are always a chance we may leave something out, and we must be willing to bear the pain involved in being uncertain, and this means doubt. Doubt is often the begining of wisdom.

Aults always think they hit the gaping void would doubt and uncertainty emerge, and in confronting crisis, these(doubt and uncertainty) beacame a saving grace.

New ways of thinking seemed terrifyingly risk and inherently difficult, so people couldn't go back and go forward, and in this 'inbetweenness‘ they become depressed. They are questions about meaning in life . 

To become healthy adults we first must resolve the Oedipal dilemma of giving up our sexual feelings for our parents,it means we need give up something important to us.

To give up something represents making a change.

Thinking and Listening

You can't truly comminicate well if you don't listen well, and you are unable to listenwell unless you are thinking well.

It not a good thing to make what we teach in school exactly proportional to what will be useful after school, but we chould be wise to give our childern moer instruction in the processses of thinking and listening well.

In most publ i c and private schools, there is virtually no formal education on these crucial aspects of communicating. 

Many people think that listening is a passive interaction. It is just the opposite.Listening well is an actvite exercise of our attention and, by necessity, is hard work.

Listening well requires total concentration upon another and is a manifestation of love in broadest sense of the word, an essential part is the discipline of brackering, it means you need to experience and acceptance.

What we are usually doing is listen selectively. Many of us are more interested in talking than in listening, or we simply refuse to listen to what we don't want to hear.

While it is true that one' s capacity to listen well may improve gradually with practice.

I have found that the knowledge that one is being truly listened to is frequently, in and of itself, remarkably therapeutic.

Freedom and Thinking

There is a rule that bad thought and feeling isn't exist, we can make ethical judgements only about actions. So we can't make judgements about a person's thoughs when they are not translated into behavior.

We have to be free to think and feel, but that doesn't mean we should utter everying thought aloud or allways wear our hearts on our sleeves.

We need to think free, in order to think and feel, we have to got to feel free. But freedom without discipline can get people in trouble, poor thinking often leads to poor behavior.

We need always to remian aware that we can make both wrong and right choices. And with the freedom to think, we must also learn to tolerate the freedom of being uncertain.

We can't separate freedom from responsibility. With the freedom that we have to think for ourselves, utimately, we must hold ourselves accountable for a\how and what we think and weather we are using our capacity for thinking to get the most of our life.

TIME AND EFFICENCY

We are encouraced to use our time efficiently, but we seldom take the time to think efficiently. People naturally know how to think is an underlying, correlating assumption that thinking doesn't require much effort or time.

Many people show little interest in contemplation, they rarely stop to think about why they're going where they're going , where they really want to go, or how best to plot out and facilitate the journey.

We have to slow down a bit and take the time to contemplate, meditate, even pray, thinking well is a time-consuming process.