生活感悟

转载：[转载]27岁姑娘离世前给世界的一封信http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_13849dbbc0102xr2u.html

最初看到这封信是在公众号英国那些事儿上，是一小部分原文截图以及完整的中文翻译。尽管中文译文读起来非常流畅，也很感动我，可我还是忍不住从网上找来英文原文，自己又翻译了一遍。我想同样的一篇文章，不同的人，不同的人生，或者相同的人，不同的人生阶段，都会有不一样的解读。我一段英文一段中文写吧。翻译的肯定有不准确的地方，也有很多力不从心的地方，欢迎大家指正，一起商讨。

或许有的人会说Holly的信过于理想化，一个人如果能够如她所说地去对待人生，几乎可以成为一个圣人了。我想，对于一个27岁，仍然对这个世界抱有很深的热情却不得不离去的人，心中的挣扎，我们一定很难理解。这些话看似是对我们所讲，谁又知道不是对她自己所讲呢？我对她生前的具体细节一无所知，但完全理解她心中的不甘和眷恋。倘若有来世，这些话或许就是对自己最好的忠告。

It’s a strange thing to realise and accept your mortality at 26 years young. It’s just one of those things you ignore. The days tick by and you just expect they will keep on coming; Until the unexpected happens. I always imagined myself growing old, wrinkled and grey- most likely caused by the beautiful family (lots of kiddies) I planned on building with the love of my life. I want that so bad it hurts.

在26岁的年纪，去认识和接受自己不久于人世这个事实，是一件让人感觉很不平静的事。死亡，是一个我们选择避而不谈的话题。 日子一天天过去，你原以为时光会一直如常，直到意外发生，期待幻灭。我总是幻想自己老去的那一天，岁月写在脸上，染灰了发丝—— 是为了我那怀着毕生的爱，和如愿以偿地建立的，美好的家庭（还有好多娃们）。我做梦都想过那样的生活，然而却不可能有机会了。

That’s the thing about life; It is fragile, precious and unpredictable and each day is a gift, not a given right.

这就是生活恼人的地方。它易碎但美好且充满未知。生命中的每一天都是一份厚礼应当心存感恩，而不是一份生就拥有的权利可以肆意挥霍。

I’m 27 now. I don’t want to go. I love my life. I am happy… I owe that to my loved ones. But the control is out of my hands.

我才27岁，还不想离开这个世界。我热爱我的生活，并且生活得无比开心。是我最亲近的人们给了我这一切。然而现在，我却不得不离他们而去。

I haven’t started this ‘note before I die’ so that death is feared - I like the fact that we are mostly ignorant to it’s inevitability… Except when I want to talk about it and it is treated like a ‘taboo’ topic that will never happen to any of us… That’s been a bit tough. I just want people to stop worrying so much about the small, meaningless stresses in life and try to remember that we all have the same fate after it all so do what you can to make your time feel worthy and great, minus the bullshit.

提笔写下这封告别信之前，死亡是很可怕的—— 我们大多数人都对这样的宿命置若罔闻。 当我开始思考死亡之前，它就像一个“禁言”话题一样，就仿佛它永远不会降临。 论死亡是一件很丧的事。但我想让大家不要再被生活里的细枝末节，无关紧要的压力所左右，去试着记住人生终有尽头，所以花时间去做让自己感觉有价值和伟大的事情上，不去理会烦扰。

I have dropped lots of my thoughts below as I have had a lot of time to ponder life these last few months. Of course it’s the middle of the night when these random things pop in my head most!

因为最近有很多时间思考人生，所以我把很多所想写了下来。 现在当然是午夜时分，夜深人静文思泉涌！
Those times you are whinging about ridiculous things (something I have noticed so much these past few months), just think about someone who is really facing a problem. Be grateful for your minor issue and get over it. It’s okay to acknowledge that something is annoying but try not to carry on about it and negatively effect other people’s days.

当你为了鸡毛蒜皮抱怨不休（我最近看到太多了），想想这世界有些人是真的遇到了困难。应该庆幸你的问题其实不足挂齿，放下吧。有些事确实很烦人，但是试着别把负能量传递给别人坏了人家一天的心情。 Once you do that, get out there and take a freaking big breath of that fresh Aussie air deep in your lungs, look at how blue the sky is and how green the trees are; It is so beautiful. Think how lucky you are to be able to do just that - breathe.
如果你真放不下，就出门走走，深吸一口我大澳清新的空气，看看碧树蓝天多么美好。想想自己能做到这一切是何其幸运哪怕只是—— 呼吸。

You might have got caught in bad traffic today, or had a bad sleep because your beautiful babies kept you awake, or your hairdresser cut your hair too short. Your new fake nails might have got a chip, your boobs are too small, or you have cellulite on your arse and your belly is wobbling.
或许你今天开车路上很堵，或许宝宝哭闹让你整宿没睡，或许理了个新发型缺嫌太短。新做的指甲劈了，胸部太小，或者屁股上有橘皮组织，肚子上套了游泳圈。 Let all that shit go… I swear you will not be thinking of those things when it is your turn to go. It is all SO insignificant when you look at life as a whole. I’m watching my body waste away right before my eyes with nothing I can do about it and all I wish for now is that I could have just one more Birthday or Christmas with my family, or just one more day with my partner and dog. Just one more.
就让这些都他妈滚蛋吧！生命尽头，哪还有功夫去想这些！回头看看这一生，这些小事无足轻重。我现在只能眼睁睁看着自己身体一天不如一天却只能听之任之，但又是多么想再和家人庆一次生日，过一次圣诞，或者跟爱人和心爱的狗狗再多过一天。就一天。 I hear people complaining about how terrible work is or about how hard it is to exercise - Be grateful you are physically able to. Work and exercise may seem like such trivial things … until your body doesn’t allow you to do either of them.

有人跟我抱怨工作辛苦，或者懒惰难以坚持锻炼—— 知足吧！你还可以工作和运动。这些事看起来多么简单，可是对我的身体来说，却比登天还难。

I tried to live a healthy life, in fact, that was probably my major passion. Appreciate your good health and functioning body- even if it isn’t your ideal size. Look after it and embrace how amazing it is. Move it and nourish it with fresh food. Don’t obsess over it.
我曾努力过上健康的生活，那或许算是我最热衷的事了。珍惜你身体健康，各项功能正常，哪怕你仍然比理想的身材大几码。好好照顾自己的身体，拥抱它的美好。用新鲜的饮食来保证营养，多多运动保持活力，适可而止不过度保养。 Remember there are more aspects to good health than the physical body… work just as hard on finding your mental, emotional and spiritual happiness too. That way you might realise just how insignificant and unimportant having this stupidly portrayed perfect social media body really is… While on this topic, delete any account that pops up on your news feeds that gives you any sense of feeling shit about yourself. Friend or not… Be ruthless for your own well-being.
身体健康只是健康的一个部分。别忘了要像关注身体一样关注我们的思想、精神、情感上的愉悦。那样你或许会意识到让自己在社交网站上的照相超完美是一件多么没有意义的无足轻重的小事。说起社交媒体，删掉所有让你自我感觉不好的用户，不管他们是不是你的朋友。保护自己自我感觉良好的状态，这种状态不容侵犯。

Be grateful for each day you don’t have pain and even the days where you are unwell with man flu, a sore back or a sprained ankle, accept it is shit but be thankful it isn’t life threatening and will go away.

充满感激地过每一天。不论是毫发无伤抑或是感冒、背痛、崴脚，这些病痛虽然让人很不爽，但好在不会危及生命，你也终将痊愈。

Whinge less, people! … And help each other more.

别抱怨了各位！多去帮帮别人。

Give, give, give. It is true that you gain more happiness doing things for others than doing them for yourself. I wish I did this more. Since I have been sick, I have met the most incredibly giving and kind people and been the receiver of the most thoughtful and loving words and support from my family, friends and strangers; More than I could I ever give in return. I will never forget this and will be forever grateful to all of these people.

给予，给予，给予，给予的快乐永远比自私多！我多希望我健康的时候可以多为别人做一些。生病之后，我遇到了极为无私和善良的人们，也收到了来自朋友、家人、甚至是陌生人的最有同理心和饱含着爱的语言和支持。此生所得，无以为报。这些，我都将铭记在心，一生都感激不尽。

It is a weird thing having money to spend at the end… when you’re dying. It’s not a time you go out and buy material things that you usually would, like a new dress. It makes you think how silly it is that we think it is worth spending so much money on new clothes and ‘things’ in our lives.

命之将尽，钱才傍身，是相当奇怪的一件事。病入膏肓，你也不会想去拿钱买些什么日常，比如连衣裙。这个时候，我们会嘲笑之前的自己，觉得买衣服买“东西”是多么“值”的一件事。

Buy your friend something kind instead of another dress, beauty product or jewellery for that next wedding. 1. No-one cares if you wear the same thing twice 2. It feels good. Take them out for a meal, or better yet, cook them a meal. Shout their coffee. Give/ buy them a plant, a massage or a candle and tell them you love them when you give it to them.

如果你要买点什么，就去想办法给好友留点念想，而不是买裙子、化妆品或者出席婚礼时戴的首饰。因为：

1. 没有人会注意你同一件首饰戴了两次；
2. 这会让你们彼此感觉很好。
   带朋友出去吃大餐，或更好的，亲手为他们做一顿饭。给他们冲一杯咖啡。送一颗植物，一次按摩，或者一根蜡烛。送给他们的时候，告诉他们你爱他们。

Value other people’s time. Don’t keep them waiting because you are shit at being on time. Get ready earlier if you are one of those people and appreciate that your friends want to share their time with you, not sit by themselves, waiting on a mate. You will gain respect too! Amen sister.

珍惜别人的时间。别总因为自己拖拖拉拉让别人等。早早准备。你的朋友们乐于跟你共度时光，你应该感激，而不是让他们孤单等待。珍惜别人的时间，别人也会尊重你的。

This year, our family agreed to do no presents and despite the tree looking rather sad and empty (I nearly cracked Christmas Eve!), it was so nice because people didn’t have the pressure of shopping and the effort went into writing a nice card for each other. Plus imagine my family trying to buy me a present knowing they would probably end up with it themselves… strange! It might seem lame but those cards mean more to me than any impulse purchase could. Mind you, it was also easier to do in our house because we had no little kiddies there. Anyway, moral of the story- presents are not needed for a meaningful Christmas. Moving on.

今年的圣诞节，我们家决定不买礼物了。尽管圣诞树看起来空空荡荡的有点惨，但我过的很开心，因为大家不用有压力花尽心思买礼物了。取而代之的，是大家把美好的心愿都写在圣诞卡里了。说到买礼物，其实我的家人明知道我可能撑不过圣诞节，还去买了礼物的话，可能他们只好自买自拆了。多怪！但是写圣诞卡，虽然看起来没什么新意，但是对我来说，却比冲动大采购来的更有意义。别忘了，弃礼物送贺卡比较好操作的另一个原因是因为我家没有小孩。总之，我的中心思想就是—— 一个有意义的圣诞节并不一定要靠礼物撑场。日子还会继续。

Use your money on experiences… Or at least don’t miss out on experiences because you spent all your money on material shit.

花钱去丰富自己的经历。至少不要在需要花钱去丰富人生经历的时候发现钱都花在该死的生活用品上。

Put in the effort to do that day trip to the beach you keep putting off. Dip your feet in the water and dig your toes in the sand. Wet your face with salt water.

全力去实现那已经拖了很久的海滩之旅。用脚去踏浪，去挖沙。让咸咸的海水亲吻你的脸颊。

Get amongst nature.

去亲近大自然吧。

Try just enjoying and being in moments rather than capturing them through the screen of your phone. Life isn’t meant to be lived through a screen nor is it about getting the perfect photo… enjoy the bloody moment, people! Stop trying to capture it for everyone else.

美好的时光，去享受，去置身其中，而不是沉迷手机只顾摆拍。生命的意义不是通过手机屏幕或着拍一张完美的照片来实现。生命需要身临其境地感受。享受当下的美好时光吧各位！别总把生活拍给别人看了！

Random rhetorical question. Are those several hours you spend doing your hair and make up each day or to go out for one night really worth it? I’ve never understood this about females.

另外随便问一下，你每天花在做头发做美容上或者花一整晚出去玩，这些时间真的值吗？女人的心思真的很难猜。

Get up early sometimes and listen to the birds while you watch the beautiful colours the sun makes as it rises.

早起去听鸟鸣吧，看太阳升起时那些绚烂的颜色。

Listen to music… really listen. Music is therapy. Old is best.

去听音乐吧。用心听。音乐是良药，越老味越醇。

Cuddle your dog. Far out, I will miss that.

去拥抱你的狗狗吧。我会很怀念这种感觉。

Talk to your friends. Put down your phone. Are they doing okay?
去跟朋友们聊聊。放下手机，去看看他们。他们过得怎么样？ Travel if it’s your desire, don’t if it’s not.
去旅行吧。心之所向，路就在脚下。心累了，世界就在家中。 Work to live, don’t live to work.
为了生活而工作，不要为了工作而生活。Seriously, do what makes your heart feel happy.

认真地，做让自己开心的事。

Eat the cake. Zero guilt.

大口吃蛋糕吧。不要负罪感。

Say no to things you really don’t want to do.

心里拒绝，嘴上就拒绝。

Don’t feel pressured to do what other people might think is a fulfilling life… you might want a mediocre life and that is so okay.

不要违背自己的心去过别人眼中的美好生活。你也许只想平平淡淡过一生，那也没有什么不好。

Tell your loved ones you love them every time you get the chance and love them with everything you have.

只要有机会，就去告诉你爱的人你爱他们，并用尽全力去爱他们。

Also, remember if something is making you miserable, you do have the power to change it - in work or love or whatever it may be. Have the guts to change. You don’t know how much time you’ve got on this earth so don’t waste it being miserable. I know that is said all the time but it couldn’t be more true.

如果有事让你不爽，你就有能力改变它—— 不论是工作，感情或是其它事。有勇气去改变。你永远不知道生命什么时候会戛然而止所以千万不要把时间浪费在垂头丧气上。我知道这是老生常谈但却是千真万确的。

Anyway, that’s just this one young gals life advice. Take it or leave it, I don’t mind!

好了，这就是一个姑娘的人生建议。采纳与否，都随意吧！

Oh and one last thing, if you can, do a good deed for humanity (and myself) and start regularly donating blood. It will make you feel good with the added bonus of saving lives. I feel like it is something that is so overlooked considering every donation can save 3 lives! That is a massive impact each person can have and the process really is so simple.

噢还有最后一点，如果可以，为人类（和我自己）做一件好事，开始定期献血。它会让你感到开心而且又能救人一命。我觉得献血的意义被极大的低估了，因为每一次献血都可以拯救三条生命！这对于每个人来说都是巨大的贡献，而整个献血过程又极其简单。

Blood donation (more bags than I could keep up with counting) helped keep me alive for an extra year - a year I will be forever grateful that I got to spend it here on Earth with my family, friends and dog. A year I had some of the greatest times of my life…

献血（我已经完全数不过来了）帮我又活了一年—— 我无比感恩的一年，我可以跟家人、朋友和狗狗一起生活在这个世上的一年，我拥有了生命中最闪亮时光的一年。

’Til we meet again.
再会了。