避免过度思考

转自 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bzfv-dHsmoY

overthinking and anxious thoughts can

真的毁了你的生活 我曾经是一个思想过度的人 我曾经认为 过度思考和焦虑的想法可以

literally ruin your life I used to be a huge overthinker I used to think that

真的毁了你的生活 我曾经是一个思想过度的人 我曾经认为 过度思考和焦虑的想法可以

this is going to happen this person thinks this about me all these thoughts

这将会发生 这个人对我有这样的想法 所有这些想法

would go through my head and I would actually manifest those situations even

会在我的脑海中闪现，我什至会实际表现出这些情况

though they were never meant to happen or I would manifest a person being angry

尽管它们本来就不应该发生，否则我会表现出一个人生气

at me even though that was never the case in the first place because in my

对我来说，尽管从一开始就不是这样，因为在我看来

head I had already made that situ situation up when it was never going to

我已经把那种情况做好了，但它永远不会发生

happen overthinking can even lead to such serious

发生过度思考甚至会导致如此严重的后果

consequences I learned how to stop overthinking how to trust life and I'm

后果 我学会了如何停止过度思考如何相信生活，我

going to show you guys how you can do the same thing in this video hi guys my

将向你们展示如何在这段视频中做同样的事情嗨，伙计们，我的

name is this and welcome back to my Channel first thing I need you to

名字是这个，欢迎回到我的频道，我需要你做的第一件事

realize is no one knows you different versions of you exist in everyone's head

意识到没有人认识你每个人脑海中都存在不同版本的你

see someone can look at my videos and think wow that girl saved my life she's

看到有人可以看我的视频并认为哇那个女孩救了我的命她是

amazing another person can look at me and think I hate her she ruined me I

令人惊奇的是另一个人可以看着我并认为我恨她她毁了我

completely feel so lost because of her why because they had a different

完全因为她而感到失落，为什么因为他们有不同的

perception of me when they were listening to me I'm the same person but

当他们听我讲话时对我的看法 我是同一个人，但是

people have different experiences with me it's the same way with other people

人们对我有不同的经历，对其他人也是如此

like for example imagine your mother right if I ask you right now oh how is

例如，想象一下，如果我现在问你，你妈妈是对的，哦，怎么样？

your mother you will give me an answer oh she's like this this is whatever

你妈妈你会给我一个答案哦她就像这样这就是无论如何

right but then I ask your sibling how is your mother maybe they had a completely

是的，但是我问你的兄弟姐妹，你的母亲怎么样，也许他们完全有一个

different experience with her and they have a completely different perception

与她不同的经历，他们有完全不同的看法

of her but then who is your mother who is

她的母亲是谁

she you don't know I don't know and your sibling doesn't know maybe your mother

她，你不知道，我不知道，你的兄弟姐妹也不知道，也许你的母亲

doesn't even know who she is herself that's why I think it's very foolish to

甚至不知道她自己是谁，这就是为什么我认为这是非常愚蠢的

think of like oh why did they do do that I would have never expected them to do

想一想，哦，他们为什么要这么做，我从来没想过他们会这么做

that oh why didn't that job hire me I didn't expect that you didn't know them

那哦为什么那份工作没有雇用我我没想到你不认识他们

you didn't know that person you had a perception of them in your head but that

你不认识那个人，你在你的头脑中对他们有一个看法，但是

perception is not them that's your experience with that person that is not

感知不是他们，而是你与那个人的经历

that person that is not that interviewer that job interviewer that wanted to hire

那个人不是那个面试官那个想要雇用的工作面试官

you maybe thought Oh I thought they liked me but they in their head had

你也许会想，哦，我以为他们喜欢我，但他们心里有

completely different experience with you start to understand that nobody knows

与你完全不同的经历开始明白没人知道

you and you don't know anyone we only have perceptions of other people so in

你和你谁都不认识，我们只有对其他人的看法，所以

that way you won't overthink situations you can accept that Hey listen even

这样你就不会过度思考你可以接受的情况，嘿，听听

though I might have thought I did a great job that other person didn't have

尽管我可能认为我做得很好，而其他人没有做到

a great experience with me and that's okay thing is voice your thoughts in the

和我在一起是一次很棒的经历，没关系，在其中表达你的想法就可以了

moment so my sister said this to me recently she said Liz the one thing that

那一刻，我姐姐最近对我说了这件事，她说莉兹有一件事

I admire about you the most is the fact that whenever you say something or

我最钦佩你的是，每当你说某事或

whenever you think something in the moment you voice it you say it like if

每当你在说出某件事的那一刻想到某事时，你就会说出来，就像如果

something hurt me in the moment I will say it oh I didn't like that I'm I'm not

有什么事情伤害了我，那一刻我会说出来哦，我不喜欢那样，我不是，我不是

really like I don't make a scene about it I'm also a very chill person I don't

我真的很喜欢，我不会对此大吵大闹，我也是一个非常冷漠的人，我不会

get offended easily but if I didn't like something I'll tell you in the moment I

很容易被冒犯，但如果我不喜欢某件事，我会立即告诉你

didn't like that please don't do that this is also how resentment gets created

不喜欢那样，请不要那样做，这也是产生怨恨的方式

and then you become the kind of person you're always angry at like minor things

然后你就变成了那种总是因为一些小事而生气的人

because you didn't voice your opinion when you were mistreated you collected

因为你在受到虐待时没有表达自己的意见，所以你收集了

yourself back then so now all those emotions will come up for the like the

那时的你，所以现在所有这些情绪都会出现，比如

minimum thing right I the reason why I always voice my thoughts in the moment

至少正确的事情是我总是在当下表达我的想法的原因

and what I think is because I cannot afford to let my brain be filled with

我想是因为我不能让我的大脑充满

unnecessary thoughts I need this to be free not only for my job but also just

不必要的想法我需要这个免费，不仅是为了我的工作，也是为了

for life and to have a peace of mind I want to go to bed at night not thinking

为了生活为了内心的平静我想晚上睡觉不去想

about these things anymore if I tell you in the moment moment I didn't like that

如果我现在告诉你我不喜欢那样的话，就不再谈论这些事情了

and we can resolve it right then and there I'm happy I don't go to bed with

我们可以马上解决这个问题，我很高兴我没有和他一起上床

fight anger or res resentment because I cannot afford that you feel triggered by

战胜愤怒或怨恨，因为我无法承受你因以下原因而感到触发的后果：

something or offended just say that to the person that offended you or

某件事或被冒犯了，只需对冒犯您的人说这句话或

triggered you like hey this is a trigger for me hey this offended me there's

触发了你，嘿，这对我来说是一个触发点，嘿，这冒犯了我，有

nothing wrong in voicing your opinion another thing you can also do is Journal

表达你的观点并没有什么错你还可以做的另一件事是写日记

about it before you go to bed like the situation Journal write it down whatever

在你睡觉前谈论它就像情况日记一样写下来

but make sure that it's out of here onto something else you can even paint do

但要确保它离开这里到其他你甚至可以画的东西上

whatever create an art piece something that removes the that makes the emotions

任何创造一件艺术品的东西都会消除产生情感的东西

and the the thoughts in your head move other thing you need to realize is where

你头脑中的想法会推动你需要意识到的其他事情

is that trigger or fear coming from see overthinking is basically creating

是因为看到过度思考而产生的触发或恐惧基本上是在创造

situations out of fear situations that might never happen but you are fearful

出于恐惧的情况 可能永远不会发生但你感到恐惧的情况

of those situations sometimes people overthink like for example

在这些情况下，有时人们会想得太多，例如

a guy didn't text you back fast enough right and you start to overthink oh my

一个人没有足够快地给你回短信，你就开始想太多了哦天哪

God he doesn't like me oh my God he he doesn't want me anymore this that you

上帝他不喜欢我哦我的上帝他不再想要我了，因为你

overthink and you create this crazy scene in your head right and you start

想太多，你就在脑海中创造出这个疯狂的场景，然后你就开始了

to self- sabotage yourself where is this coming from most likely you have

自我破坏自己 这最有可能来自哪里

attachment issues most likely maybe a parent has left your life an early age

依恋问题很可能是父母在你很小的时候就离开了你的生活

and shown you that you like there was no commitment towards you so now every

并向你表明你喜欢没有对你的承诺所以现在每个

single partner you have you're scared that they're going to leave you as well

你的单身伴侣你害怕他们也会离开你

so then you start to overthink and that's where that fear is coming from

然后你开始想太多，这就是恐惧的来源

and that the the person not replying to you fast enough that's triggering you

那个人回复你的速度不够快，这触发了你

into that fear into overthinking so when you start

陷入恐惧，陷入过度思考，所以当你开始时

overthinking something even if you have a job right and that job didn't hire you

即使你有一份合适的工作，但那份工作并没有雇用你，你也想太多

why does that trigger you so much why where is that coming from maybe you feel

为什么这会如此强烈地触发你为什么它来自哪里也许你会觉得

like oh they don't see me they they're not they're not validating me the way

就像哦，他们看不到我，他们不是，他们没有以这种方式验证我

the way I wish they would validate me this is making me feel less about myself

我希望他们能够认可我，但这让我对自己感觉不那么好

I want to feel worthy these are all triggers like look at the base what is

我想要感到有价值，这些都是触发因素，比如看看基础是什么

behind the the reason that you're overthinking everything other thing is

你过度思考其他事情背后的原因

look at facts instead of feelings see when we are overthinking we are acting

看事实而不是感觉 当我们想得太多时我们就会采取行动

out of feelings right we're acting out of triggers we're acting out of fear but

出于正确的感觉，我们的行为是出于触发因素，我们的行为是出于恐惧，但是

look at the facts that person probably busy that's why he's not answering you

看看这个人可能很忙的事实，这就是他不回复你的原因

right now he's not going to leave you that's a fact

现在他不会离开你，这是事实

um the that job they didn't hire you because maybe they just found someone

嗯，那份工作他们没有雇用你，因为也许他们只是找到了一个人

better you were just not good enough for that position does that mean you're not

更好的是，您只是不够优秀，无法胜任该职位，这是否意味着您不适合

good in enough enough in Life or you will not get a better opportunity no

生活中足够好否则你不会得到更好的机会不

that's also a fact like when those thoughts come up you have to ask

这也是一个事实，就像当这些想法出现时你必须问

yourself okay this thought that I have right now that I feel like they're going

你自己好吧，我现在的想法是我觉得他们要走了

to abandon me that I feel like I was not worthy because of that job didn't hire

抛弃我，因为那份工作没有聘用，我觉得自己不值得

me is that true ask yourself is is this what I'm thinking right now this thought

我是真的，问问自己，这就是我现在的想法吗？

is it true other thing was like every single time U my therapist actually she

这是真的吗？其他事情就像每次我的治疗师实际上她

thought this to me a thought would come up that was like negative or bad or

我认为这会出现一个负面的、坏的或负面的想法

whatever or even if I saw a negative comment she said Liz imagine it like

不管怎样，即使我看到负面评论，她说莉兹想象一下

with like a bubble in your head like a thought coming up like a bubble and

就像你脑子里有一个气泡，一个想法像一个气泡一样出现，

you're poking it with a needle immediately when it comes so imagine I

当它来的时候你会立即用针戳它所以想象一下我

saw a bad comment right and it came to my head I started overthinking poke I I

看到一个不好的评论，我的脑海中浮现出我开始想太多戳我我

do like poke like it's I'm poking it with a needle and and it really helped

就像我用针戳它一样，这真的很有帮助

me overthinking will not change the situation what if does not

我想太多也改变不了现状，如果不改变怎么办

exist when you can sit there for hours for days overthinking the situation

当你可以连续几天坐在那里思考情况时，它就存在

thinking oh this might happen this might happen whatever but the only thing we

想着哦，这可能会发生，这可能会发生，但我们唯一的事情

have right now is the present moment what is happening right now is this

现在就是现在，现在正在发生的是这样的

nothing else you being anxious about what might happen in the future is not

没有什么是你对未来可能发生的事情感到焦虑的

real you might create those situations because of your fear that's manifesting

真实的，你可能会因为你的恐惧而创造出这些情况

it or you might actually start looking at Solutions instead of the problem see

或者你实际上可能开始寻找解决方案而不是问题

we have problems every single day right we we had bigger problems that this we

我们每天都有问题，对吧，我们有更大的问题，我们

had smaller problems that this but did did you not fix them are you not still

有比这更小的问题，但是你没有解决它们吗？

here overthinking the situation can only get worse if we allow it to get worse we

如果我们允许事情变得更糟，过度思考，情况只会变得更糟

can just see there is a problem that arises all of my successful friends they

可以看到我所有成功的朋友都出现了一个问题

do the same thing problem comes we solve it okay how can we solve it how what can

做同样的事情，问题来了，我们解决它，好吧，我们怎样才能解决它，怎么办？

we do what are the option bum bum bum bum bum and we look at it you have to

我们做了什么选项 bum bum bum bum bum 我们看看你必须

especially with if you're big over thinking you have to start thinking

尤其是如果你过度思考，你就必须开始思考

quickly in these situations I've been always in survival mode throughout my

很快，在这些情况下，我一直处于生存模式

childhood so for me this comes very easily and very naturally I'm very good

童年所以对我来说这来得很容易也很自然我很好

at solving situations under stress don't be afraid to ask for help ask for help

在解决压力下的情况时不要害怕寻求帮助 寻求帮助

when you need help if if there's a situation that arises and you feel like

当您需要帮助时 如果出现某种情况并且您感觉像

oh my God I don't know what to do call call someone ask someone uh ask someone

天哪，我不知道该怎么办 打电话给某人 询问某人 呃 询问某人

else to connect you with someone else to help you don't be afraid to ask for help

否则可以将您与其他人联系起来以帮助您，不要害怕寻求帮助

you're not weak you're very strong you're you're reaching out to people and

你并不软弱，你非常坚强，你正在向人们伸出援手

say Hey listen I can't handle this on my own you know how much courage that takes

说嘿，听着，我无法独自处理这件事，你知道这需要多大的勇气

that is incredibly strong and people will help you people will help you I've

这是非常强大的，人们会帮助你，人们会帮助你，我已经

been helped so many times by so many people that I'm so grateful for and I

得到了很多人的帮助，我非常感激，我

could not have been here without those people so don't be shy to ask for help

如果没有这些人，我就不可能来到这里，所以不要羞于寻求帮助

thing is when you're overthinking calm yourself down either go to sleep I've

事情是，当你想太多的时候，让自己冷静下来，要么去睡觉，我已经

noticed when I start overthinking a lot it's also because I either I didn't have

注意到当我开始想太多时，这也是因为我要么没有

good enough sleep or I'm just very tired right now so then I start overthinking

睡眠充足，或者我现在很累，所以我开始想太多

when I go to sleep all those thoughts go away because sometimes your body just

当我入睡时，所有这些想法都会消失，因为有时你的身体只是

needs rest and that's why it's like overthinking thinking weird thoughts

需要休息，这就是为什么这就像过度思考奇怪的想法

because you're just tired thing is with breathing exercises my my yoga teacher

因为你只是累了，我的瑜伽老师就是呼吸练习

he actually taught me this like when you're breathing we should actually

他实际上教了我这一点，就像当你呼吸时我们实际上应该

breathe through our stomach so that we relax so when you breathe

通过我们的胃呼吸，这样我们就可以放松，所以当你呼吸时

in your stomach expands and then you breathe out and your stomach goes in

在你的胃里膨胀，然后你呼气，你的胃就会收缩

again that really relaxes you if you do that a couple of times your body will

如果你这样做几次，你的身体就会真正放松

relax other thing is yoga and meditation yoga helps immensely with overthinking

放松另一件事是瑜伽和冥想瑜伽对过度思考有很大帮助

and calming your body down when I consistently do yoga I'm so so relaxed

当我坚持做瑜伽时让你的身体平静下来我是如此放松

like it calms your whole nervous system down uh and meditation the same thing

就像它可以让你的整个神经系统平静下来，呃，冥想也是一样的

just sitting there even for 5 minutes closing your eyes and just realizing

只是坐在那里，哪怕是五分钟，闭上眼睛，然后意识到

that you're right now in the moment that you're present and this is what we have

你现在就在你在场的那一刻，这就是我们所拥有的

right now will calm you down immensely go out for a walk in nature go watch the

现在会让你平静下来，出去在大自然中散步，看看

sunset go to the beach go play with your pet anything that can relax you in the

日落时分，去海滩，和你的宠物一起玩任何可以让你放松的事情

moment will help you immensely with overthinking other thing is Life Works

这一刻将极大地帮助你摆脱过度思考，其他事情就是生活的意义

itself out for you see I used to be ever since I was young such a big overthinker

你看，我从小就是一个想得太多的人

because I wanted to control life and I want I wanted to control how everything

因为我想控制生活，我想控制一切

went I knew what I wanted and I was going to get what I wanted but what did

我知道我想要什么，我会得到我想要的，但是我做了什么

I not anticipate was all the things that I first had to go through to get where I

我没有预料到我首先必须经历的所有事情才能达到我的目标

want I didn't plan those things but see life did life needed to teach me lessons

我想我没有计划这些事情，但看看生活是否需要生活来教我教训

life also humbled me in a big way so that now that I am at this stage where I

生活也让我在很大程度上感到谦卑，所以现在我正处于这个阶段，我

have everything I still have humility I don't look down on people and I don't

拥有一切我依然保持谦逊我不看不起人我也不

think that I'm better than anyone and so that's also when I realized all those

认为我比任何人都好，所以那时我才意识到所有这些

years overthinking the situation all those years thinking that this is how it

多年来过度思考情况 多年来认为事情就是这样

should have happened no when I look back at my life it happened exactly the way

本来应该发生的，不，当我回顾我的生活时，它就这样发生了

it was meant to happen exactly the way and and I would have never predicted

它本来就应该以这种方式发生，而我却从未预料到

this way for myself but this was the way I needed it to come to this point so

对我自己来说是这样，但这是我需要它达到这一点的方式，所以

it's the same way for you you might think why are those things happening

这对你来说也是一样的，你可能会想为什么会发生这些事情

right now that's not what I want this is what I want it will never get better

现在这不是我想要的 这就是我想要的 永远不会变得更好

blah blah it will but the lessons that you're learning right now are crucial

等等等等，但是你现在学到的教训是至关重要的

for you you need those lessons you need those lessons and you will only realize

对你来说，你需要那些课程，你需要那些课程，你只会意识到

that when you come to a state that you get what you want and then you

当你到达一种状态，你得到了你想要的，然后你

will look back and be like you know what I'm grateful for those lessons I'm

当我回首往事时，我会觉得你知道我对这些教训心怀感激

grateful I went through what I went through because I would not be the

感谢我经历了我所经历的一切，因为我不会成为

person that I am today another thing I need you to realize is it was not meant

我今天是这样的人，我需要你意识到的另一件事是，这并不是故意的

for you stop overthinking why does this not

因为你不再想太多为什么这不

work why did that person leave my life why did I not get this job it was not

工作 为什么那个人离开了我的生活 为什么我没有得到这份工作 这不是

meant for you you were not supposed to have that thing and you were maybe you

对你来说你不应该拥有那个东西，而你也许就是你

were meant to have something much greater but because you cannot let go of

本来应该拥有更伟大的东西，但因为你无法放手

why did I not get this thing that other thing that was meant for you cannot come

为什么我没有得到这个东西，而其他本来应该给你的东西却无法到来

in way I see Life Is God is always protecting me and whatever is removed

在我看来，生命就是上帝，总是在保护我，无论被移除的是什么

from my life or whatever opportunity I didn't get is because God is giving me

从我的生活或任何我没有得到的机会都是因为上帝给了我

something bigger this is my mentality and 100% I believe this and every single

更大的事情，这是我的心态，我百分百相信这一点和每一个

time my theory has been proved proven right because God has not failed me God

时间证明我的理论是正确的，因为上帝没有让我失望上帝

has my back and I believe this sometimes when people leave

有我的支持，有时当人们离开时我相信这一点

sometimes when you don't get that job it's not meant for you and have peace

有时候，当你没有得到那份工作时，它并不适合你，请安心

with that you need to start accepting that people will not like you some

有了这个，你需要开始接受人们不会喜欢你的事实

people will not like you some people will dislike you for no reason some

人们不会喜欢你 有些人会无缘无故地不喜欢你 有些人

people will not give you that job because they don't like you people will

人们不会因为不喜欢你而给你这份工作

discriminate you people will be racist to you people will not accept you as you

歧视你的人会对你产生种族歧视 人们不会接受你

are but that does not happen have to Define you you don't have to take their

是，但那不会发生必须定义你，你不必接受他们

perception of you as your reality you are not what they're telling you you are

将你视为你的现实，你并不像他们告诉你的那样

not their version of you start having peace with the fact that not every job

不是他们版本的你开始平静地接受这样一个事实，即并非每一份工作

is going to like you not every brand whatever is going to like you because

会喜欢你 不是每个品牌都会喜欢你，因为

you don't fit their standards they they want to be with someone else and that is

你不符合他们的标准，他们想和别人在一起，那就是

also okay the more you start accepting that people will re reject you because

也没关系，你越开始接受人们会再次拒绝你，因为

that's just humans that's human nature not everyone will like us the more

这就是人类，这就是人性，不是每个人都会更喜欢我们

easier life becomes and the more you start thinking

生活变得更容易，你开始思考得越多

No it should be like this oh no I should have this you're thinking in

不，应该是这样的哦，不，我应该有你正在想的这个

lack why are you thinking in lack do you think because that person walked out of

缺乏 你为什么会思考缺乏 你认为是因为那个人走出了

your life God will not provide you with someone else do you think because you

你认为上帝不会为你提供其他人的生活，因为你

didn't get that job God will not provide you with a better job do we as humans

没有得到那份工作上帝不会为你提供更好的工作，我们作为人类吗

think so small minded why do we think of God as someone so small people are

心胸如此狭隘 为什么我们认为上帝是一个如此渺小的人

building huge things spaceships uh like even an airplane how do you even build

建造巨大的东西，宇宙飞船，甚至像飞机，你是如何建造的

an airplane I don't know how do you build buildings that's that's like

一架飞机 我不知道你如何建造类似的建筑物

insane skyscrapers you think people are capable

你认为人们有能力的疯狂摩天大楼

of doing the craziest stuff but God will not fix your life understand that you're

做最疯狂的事情，但上帝不会改变你的生活，明白你是

not your failure you know like okay what it didn't work out okay ant you start

不是你的失败，你知道，好吧，它没有成功，好吧，你开始吧

that business didn't work out okay ant you were married before for years on end

那件事进展不顺利，而且你之前已经结婚多年了

it didn't work out okay a you think you can't do that again you think you can't

事情没有成功，好吧，你认为你不能再这样做你认为你不能

get better again why do you guys think so small

又好起来了 为什么你们想得这么小

start thinking bigger for yourself you think you were created and put on this

开始为自己考虑更大的事情，你认为你是被创造出来的，并穿上了这个

Earth to just suffer no I don't believe that I think we were put on this Earth

地球只是受苦不我不相信我认为我们被放在这个地球上

to have the best life possible and I think God is backing us like crazy but

尽可能过上最好的生活，我认为上帝疯狂地支持我们，但是

you guys never asked ask you guys don't even ask other people you guys don't

你们从来不问你们甚至不问别人你们不问

even ask God you guys don't ask anyone and then you're like oh why is my life

甚至问上帝，你们不问任何人，然后你们就会说，哦，为什么我的生活如此

so hard ask ask for the biggest things these people are not special the money

这么难要求要求最大的事情这些人并不特别有钱

and stuff all these things are not special those things come to those who

所有这些东西并不特别，这些东西都属于那些人

believe in themselves those things come to those who believe in God and believe

相信自己，那些事情会降临到那些相信上帝并相信的人身上

that God is backing them those are the ones that get it because they're like

上帝在支持他们，那些人得到了它，因为他们就像

yeah life is going to be great for me yeah it should be great because I'm

是的，生活对我来说会很棒是的，它应该很棒，因为我

alive that should be your mentality my life should be great because I am alive

活着，这应该是你的心态，我的生活应该很棒，因为我还活着

so let go of trying to be perfect you're trying to be perfect trying to do this

所以放弃追求完美的努力吧你正在努力做到完美

perfect this and that you might create something and you think that's perfect

完善这个，你可能会创造出一些你认为是完美的东西

in your eyes someone will comment on it and say that's the worst thing I've ever

在你眼中有人会评论它并说这是我做过的最糟糕的事情

seen in my life once you start understanding that you'll never be

一旦你开始明白你永远不会成为我的生活

perfect because every single person has a different perception of what perfect

完美是因为每个人对完美的看法不同

is that's when you can fully let go of trying to impress or trying to be

那时你就可以完全放弃试图给人留下深刻印象或试图成为别人的想法

perfect if you're waiting to be perfect you'll never get it done because you

完美如果你等待完美，你永远不会完成它，因为你

won't even start cuz nothing is perfect you do it and do it wrong do it

甚至不会开始，因为没有什么是完美的，你做了，但做错了，去做吧

badly let people even laugh at you but at least make sure that whatever

糟糕地让人们甚至嘲笑你，但至少确保无论如何

you're doing you're you're standing behind it that you love it that's the

你正在做你是你站在它后面你爱它那就是

most important thing if you whatever you do you would buy it yourself or you

最重要的是，无论你做什么，你都会自己买或者你

would watch your videos yourself or you think that whatever you're doing is

会自己观看您的视频，或者您认为您所做的一切都是

interesting that's when it will sell because you believe in your own product

有趣的是，当你相信自己的产品时它就会出售

another thing is you are not their opinion see maybe your parents have told

另一件事是你不同意他们的意见，也许你的父母已经告诉过你

you you're not good enough maybe your teacher maybe uh I don't know who told

你你不够好也许你的老师也许呃我不知道是谁告诉的

you you're not good enough your crazy ex um your friends whoever made you feel

你，你不够好，你疯狂的前任，你的朋友，无论谁让你有这种感觉

like you're not good enough you're not their opinion you are not their opinion

就像你不够好，你不符合他们的意见，你不符合他们的意见

you don't F that reality for yourself you have to reaffirm to yourself I am

你不知道自己的现实你必须向自己重申我是

the greatest I am so good I'm amazing I'm mesmerizing I will get everything I

最伟大的我是如此优秀我太棒了我令人着迷我会得到我的一切

want you know I grew up in a situation where everything was so bad like I

我想让你知道我是在一个一切都像我一样糟糕的环境中长大的

looked around me everyone was suffering everyone was getting abused and I was

环顾四周，每个人都在受苦，每个人都在受到虐待，而我

like but in my head I was like oh I'm going to make it I'm going to make

就像，但在我的脑海里，我想哦，我要成功，我要成功

it I'm going to make it I would even listen to motivational videos of that

我会成功的 我什至会听一些励志视频

will tell that would tell me I'm going to make it every single day I would go

会告诉我，我会告诉我，我会去的每一天

to my shitty job that I hated so much I would go there like at 5:00 a.m. I would

我非常讨厌我的糟糕工作，我会在凌晨 5:00 去那里。我会

walk there um I'll would go there and I would listen to these people screaming

走到那里，嗯，我会去那里，我会听到这些人尖叫

these men screaming at me you're going to make it you're going to be amazing

这些人对我尖叫，你会成功的，你会变得很棒

this that I would constantly listen to it and reaffirm it to myself because

我会不断地倾听并向自己重申这一点，因为

when you have no hope anymore reaffirming to yourself that everything

当你不再有希望时，向自己重申一切

is going to be okay is actually what makes you feel feel sane in an insane

会好起来的实际上是让你在疯狂中感觉清醒的原因

situation last but not least social media is making everyone crazy see

最后但并非最不重要的情况是社交媒体让每个人都疯狂地看到

listen social media made it so easy for everyone to compare our lives and then

聆听社交媒体让每个人都可以轻松比较我们的生活，然后

you start to overthink your life because you think oh my God they're at this age

你开始过度思考你的生活，因为你认为天哪，他们都在这个年纪了

doing this already and you can see it and then you're like oh my God I'm too

已经这样做了，你可以看到它，然后你就像天哪，我也是

late I can't do it I will not find love because I'm not old or whatever stop

晚了我做不到我不会找到爱因为我还没有老或者什么停止

stop whatever people are portraying on social media I know many people that

停止人们在社交媒体上描绘的一切我知道很多人

have this social media platform that are so unhappy in real life but on their all

有这个社交媒体平台，他们在现实生活中非常不开心，但他们全力以赴

social medias they look so happy whatever they have everything and in

在社交媒体上，他们看起来很快乐，无论他们拥有一切，

real life it's just not the case stop comparing yourself to other

现实生活并非如此，不要再将自己与他人进行比较

people and whatever those people are going through or what they have you can

人和那些人正在经历的事情或他们拥有的东西你可以

never take that away from them that's for them and what you have right now

永远不要从他们手中夺走那些属于他们和你现在拥有的东西

that is for you the only way you make yourself grow is by putting gratitude

对你来说，让自己成长的唯一方法就是感恩

into your life by being grateful for what you have that's how everything will

通过感激你所拥有的一切来融入你的生活，一切都会如此

expand more and more but you just comparing yourself to other people and

越来越扩展，但你只是将自己与其他人进行比较

thinking in lack or being jealous of what they have will never get you what

思考匮乏或嫉妒他们所拥有的永远不会让你得到什么

you want the grass is always greener on the other side until we realize that the

你希望彼岸的草总是更绿，直到我们意识到

only grass that matters is our own if it's hard for you just do not follow

唯一重要的是我们自己的草，如果这对你来说很难，就不要跟随

these people do not look at these app that you constantly see people having

这些人不会看这些你经常看到的应用程序

better things than you then walk away from it and literally protect your own

比你更好的事情然后离开它并真正保护你自己的

peace of mind and otherwise just realize that

内心平静，否则就意识到

whatever is meant for you will happen anyways and what is meant for them will

无论如何，对你来说意味着什么都会发生，对他们来说意味着什么也会发生

also happen have peace with yourself and have peace with life hope you guys

也会发生与自己和平相处并与生活和平相处希望你们

enjoyed this video I hope you guys learned something um and yeah I love you

喜欢这个视频，我希望你们学到了一些东西，是的，我爱你们

guys so much I appreciate you guys so much and I'm really grateful for you

非常感谢你们，我真的很感激你们

thank you so much for

看观注视

watching I love you guys bye- bye

非常感谢您的收看，我爱你们，再见