We are a nation without death education

　　In the face of death,

　　We must make up classes.

　　About living,

　　Death is the best teacher.

　　Author: Supplements

　　Source of this article: Public number "Supplement"

　　ID:shiyi201633

　　one,

　　The "Northern Medicine" Professor Wang spoke of two experiences:

　　A high-ranking cadre, drinking alcohol, drinking two bottles of Maotai, and being rescued for two illnesses were rescued. The third time he fell ill, was not saved and died. His son is not helpless and he is looking for a doctor to make trouble: "How could he die? I never thought that my dad would die." The king said, "How could you never think your dad would die? No matter your dad Whoever you are, you should know that he will die one day." There is another old man who is 96 years old. After going to the hospital for an examination, I have to give a statement to the hospital. The party on the other side had to tell the truth: "You may not be able to do it." The old man was rushing into the air and was about to beat the king: "It is not good to speak."

　　In the Chinese conception, death is a very taboo word. On weekdays, people generally do not discuss the topic of death. Many people have considered the death for the first time since the deadline expired.

　　"Tibetan Life and Death Book" says: We are a nation without death preparation.

　　two,

　　When I was seven years old, my grandma died of an accidental stroke. Three days before my death, I was taken to her bed. No adult told me that my grandmother was dying. That was the last time. I was taken in a hurry and taken away in a hurry until one month after my grandmother was buried, I learned that she was dead.

　　So far, I still remember the anger and sadness of the time. I grew up with my grandmother and hated my parents for a full half year. That month, when my parents did not pay attention, they would hide their widows in their schoolbags and go to school. I deceive myself in this way: "Grandmother still."

　　The adults think that isolating me from death is my protection, but I do not know how much harm this kind of practice has done to me.

　　"Why do people die?" "Where will people go after they die?" "Why did you die instead of others?"

　　When the children flash their doubtful eyes and put these problems in front of their parents, we are not evasive or evasive: "He is sleeping," "He is traveling," "He has gone to heaven."

　　As a result, children have deep doubts and fears about death. In our education, we have been absent from the "death" lesson.

　　Bai Yansong said: “When the Chinese discuss death, they are simply primary school students because China has never had a real death education.”

　　three,

　　Death education has developed quite maturely in Europe and the United States. This kind of education begins with a variety of books.

　　For example, a picture book such as "Grandpa became a ghost", the book tells a boy Aspen, Espen's favorite person is Grandpa Holger. One day, Holger suddenly died of a heart attack. Aspen was very sad and cried. That night, Grandpa came back and sat on the cupboard.

　　Aspen is very strange: "Grandpa, what are you doing? Are you not dead?"

　　Grandpa said: "I thought I was dead."

　　Aspen said, "Oh, you have become a ghost! The book says that as long as the ghosts are willing to go, they can enter through the wall."

　　Grandpa said: "Then I will try it too." He walked out through the wall and then came back.

　　Aspen said happily, "Grandpa, you've become a ghost, so funny!"

　　So Grandpa came to Espen this night to play. One day, however, Grandpa sighed and said, "I'm not happy at all. I can't always be a ghost! The book says that if a person forgets to do something when he dies, it becomes a ghost. I thought for days. Can't think of what is happening."

　　In order to help Grandpa, Little Aspen thought with him. Grandfather Sun recalled a lot of happy past: They went to the amusement park and almost spit on the roller coaster; they dug a big pit in the garden to plant trees; they slept while watching a movie...

　　"Oh, I remember - I forgot to say goodbye to you!" Grandpa suddenly shouted.

　　Grandpa and Aspen cried.

　　“Good-bye—” In the end, Grandpa walked through the wall and Aspen waved and watched Grandpa disappear into the darkness.

　　Such a book is to guide children to correctly understand death. It is understood that death is a process that we must experience. Life begins and ends. This is a certain number of life. It is part of the rules of the world's game. When life is here, it should be natural. Leave.

　　four,

　　Death education is not only found in books in Europe and the United States, but it has also become a discipline in school education. It has been imperceptible since the beginning of kindergarten. The Doctor MD talked about a personal experience:

　　In 2009, he went to New York to study for a doctor of medicine. Her husband was also transferred to the United States headquarters to work. As a result, the 6-year-old son Cheng Cheng was sent to the United States to attend school. Cheng Cheng entered the school for a week, and the blossoming teacher received a phone call: “There is a death education class on Wednesday and I hope you will attend with your child.”

　　The blossoming frightened, but that day, blossoming went to participate. It turns out that the rabbit “Peanut”, which was collectively raised by the students, died, and the teacher wanted to open a memorial service for it.

　　“The death of peanuts has caused many classmates to grieve. Of course, some classmates have shown that they don’t care about themselves. These two emotions are actually wrong. Today, we’re going to work together to make peanuts a commemorative album. Everyone can give peanuts a shot. The photos that I would like to say about peanuts are all included in this commemorative book," said the teacher.

　　After the children were busy, the album was ready. The teacher said to the children while flipping the album:

　　"Peanuts were taken care of by you carefully before you were alive. When you left, it came with a satisfied smile. You gave peanuts a happy journey of life. Peanut brought many joys to you before leaving. You should be grateful and affirm that it was once The value of existence."

　　The children listened and nodded.

　　Blossoming asked his son: "How did you think about the rabbit's death?"

　　Cheng Cheng said: "I was very sad at first, but after listening to the teacher, I felt it was normal for the rabbit to leave. It was like the flowers would eventually wither!"

　　Watching his son calmly face life and death after class, blossoming can not help but admire the magic of death education courses.

　　In the blink of an eye, it was 2012 and it became a third year. On the day of April, Cheng Cheng returned home after school and said, "Mom, I need you to accompany me to the funeral home tomorrow."

　　The next day, Blossoming and his son came to the funeral home. Although she was psychologically prepared, she was still shocked. In the center of the funeral parlor, a black coffin lay on the floor. A priest standing next to the coffin smiled and said: "Which parents are willing to enter the coffin to experience it?"

　　As soon as the voice fell, the crowd was in a commotion. The son clutched his clothes and signaled her not to raise her hands. However, his son's actions have aroused his desire for blossoming. Many raised their hands and the priest ordered her name.

　　At this time, the square sounded "The Sound of Silence," and the blossoming people watched slowly and slowly toward the coffin. The son tightened her hand tighter and tighter. Blossoming took off his son's hand, lay in the coffin, looked at the world that made her nostalgic, and then took a deep breath and closed her eyes. On the moment of closing the lid, she burst into tears: "Mom! You're coming out! You can't leave me!"

　　Hearing his son’s call, one of the blossoming hearts was sinking. He could not help but shed tears. “If I really leave the world like this, what should my son do?” After more than ten seconds, the priest opens the lid and blossoms. Open your eyes, such as worldly, glad to live! The son rushed over and clung to blossomingly: "Mum, I promise that I will love you more and I will be more obedient."

　　Such death education is common in the United States. The pastor said: Only by truly experiencing death can we understand the meaning given by life.

　　Fives,

　　The writer Zhang Lijun also talked about a beautiful experience.

　　That year, she traveled to Germany with her delegation. When she got up in the morning and found a bend, she found out: “A place less than 100 meters away from the hotel is a cemetery!” The companions were angry and said that the tour guides who arranged accommodation were too bastard.

　　At breakfast, Zhang Lizhen found that the hotel also lived with many Germans. “We learned that German cemeteries are mostly built in prime locations in towns. They are not afraid of ghosts and are willing to live with the dead from morning till evening.”

　　Their cemetery is so beautiful! The rooted, rootless flowers are everywhere; the tall, sturdy apple trees are full of fruit; under the apple tree, it is a log bench. There is also a faint light on the edge of the bench. This is the “padding” that people make out of the year. When the Germans went to the cemetery to pay homage, they often took books and sat on benches to read beautiful poems for the dead.

　　Seeing such a situation, Zhang Likai lamented: “In this cemetery, I have no fear. On the contrary, the tranquil atmosphere here has given birth to a feeling of reluctance. So I stayed in this cemetery. This picture has always been my favorite."

　　The cemeteries in China are generally built far away from the crowds, full of eerie ambiguity, no one wants to place a bench here, and no one will sit there. Only on that statutory holiday period did people come to mean something: When they value money, they send deceitful tokens; when they value good food, they send them to full paper on paper; for luxury, they send paper and paper to villas. Luxury car.

　　The cemeteries in Europe and America often live in close proximity to their homes. The Chinese cemetery is built away from people's cigarettes. Europeans and Americans pay homage to their relatives and friends to send flower books. Chinese people pay homage to friends and relatives to send money and common objects. The huge differences between the two show us The major deficiency of "death education".

　　six,

　　Scholar Xiao Gongqin and a friend studying in the United States discovered a problem when studying cultural differences between the East and the West:

　　The pursuit of life for the Chinese in the United States is quite different from that of Westerners. It is that regardless of whether the business is successful or not, Chinese people in the United States like to indulge in the enjoyment of material life. As long as the Chinese are together, no matter It is a Taiwanese person, a Hong Kong person, a mainlander, or an overseas Chinese living in the United States. It is very practical. It emphasizes the enjoyment and enjoyment of life. The content of ordinary conversation is nothing more than a house or a car. There is a strong follower psychology in the enjoyment of secular life. Westerners are so diversified in their pursuit of life.

　　Europeans and Americans also have a lot of concerns about material life, but more people are pursuing other things. “Some people like to take risks, and they are quite casual in terms of material enjoyment. Some people become billionaires, but life is very simple and always Open an ordinary car. They do not care about what other people live in and how their material life is good. Everyone is self-centered and pursues values that they feel worth pursuing.”

　　On one occasion, Xiao Gongqin’s bike was broken. When the car was repaired, the “History of Western Philosophy” on the frame fell and he was seen by a middle-aged man who had a rest on the road. He suddenly looked like an alien and looked at Xiao Gongqin. , "Every time, actually there are people reading philosophy!"

　　Xiao Gong Qin lamented: "The pursuit of the Chinese people's values is too simple. Everyone is like an economic animal. Money has become the measure of everything."

　　Why is this the case? There are many reasons, but one major reason is that we lack education in death.

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