外刊精读124 / Washington Post / 讨好型人格 （难度低）

people-pleaser n. 讨好型人格
appease v. 平息，缓解(to prevent further disagreement or fighting
by letting the opposing side have sth that they want)

agreeableness
trait n. 特征，特质 (a particular characteristic that can produce a particular type of behaviour)
(His sense of humour is one of his best traits.)
altruism / ˈæltruɪzəm / n. 利他，无私 (egoism / self-interest 自私)
(He donated money to the charity purely out of altruisim.)

come at a cost …是有代价的
(Everything comes at a cost.) (However, … comes at a cost.)
resentful adj. 愤怒的，生气的
wear out 使…筋疲力尽
(He wears me out with his constant complaining.)

getaway n. 短途旅行

back up 支持
(His claims are backed up by recent research.)
champion v. 支持，捍卫

unrelenting adj. 无情的

approval n. 赞成，认可
(Sam always tried hard to win his father’s approval.)
play a role 重要(play a key/important/significant role)
sociotropy n. 社会性依赖
self-esteem n. 自尊，自信 (belief and confidence in your own ability and value)
(The compliments she received boosted her self-esteem.)
rejection n. 拒绝 unlovable adj. 不受喜爱的

aftershock n. 余震
trauma / ˈtrɔːmə / n. 创伤
intimate adj. 亲密的；隐私的；温馨的
(The restaurant has a very intimate atmosphere.)

whine v. 抱怨

fawn / fɔːn / v. 摇尾乞怜

impulse n. 冲动 (a sudden strong wish to do sth);
动机(sth that is the force behind or reason for sth else)
(I bought this expensive sweater on impulse.)
affection n. 喜爱

empowering adj. 给予力量的 (sth that is empowering makes you more
confident and makes you feel that you are in control of your life)
(For me, learning to drive was an empowering experience.)
tap into 挖掘

compassion n. 同情，怜悯
soothe v. 缓解，安慰，平和(to make sb feel calm or less worried)
(Music can soothe the mind.)
beloved adj. 被深爱的

rationalize v. 解释(to try to find reasons to explain your behaviour)
liberating adj. 解脱的

brew v. 酝酿(if an unpleasant situation or a storm is brewing, you feel that it is about to happen)
(I felt that trouble was brewing.) (A storm was brewing in the distance.)
pop up 突然出现(to appear or happen, especially suddenly or unexpectedly)
(pop-up ads 弹窗广告)

pinpoint v. 确定，查明(to discover or describe the exact facts about sth)
(We are still unable to pinpoint the cause of the explosion.)

lifeline n. 生命线
(The government is going to throw a lifeline to the troubled motor industry.)

Signs of chronic people-pleasing
over-apologizing
taking responsibility for other people’s feelings
agreeing, even when you don’t
saying yes to avoid conflict
feeling like your needs don’t matter

Why we become people-pleasers
a high desire for social approval and acceptance
relational trauma

How to manage people-pleasing
learn self-compassion
practice saying no
seek support