TED地道用语学习 - ＜脆弱的力量＞ - 4

 

我们追求完美，但我们活在一个脆弱的世界里，我们生来就脆弱，因而注定要受生活的煎熬，从而无法达到完美。

我们通常会选择麻痹脆弱(吸毒，过度用药，凡事一刀切...)，但麻痹脆弱的时候，也麻痹了快乐，感恩和幸福，因为我们无法选择性地麻痹情感(也就是选择只麻痹脆弱引起的坏的情绪).

最危险的是，我们试图使我们的孩子变得完美。

我们要做的不是试图使我们的孩子变得完美，而是告诉TA，你是不完美的，来到世上就注定要受煎熬，但是你值得拥有爱和归属感!

 

Getting laid off, laying off people…This is the world we live in. We live in a vulnerability.

 

and one of the ways we deal with it is we numb vulnerability

----麻痹脆弱

 

and I think there is evidence -- and it’s not the only reason this evidence exists, and I think it’s a huge cause -- we are the most in-debt, obese, addicted and medicated adult cohort in U.S. history.

---- the reason the evidence exists

---- huge cause

---- in-debt 负债的

---- obese [əʊ'biːs] 肥胖的，过度肥胖的

---- addicted 上瘾的，沉迷的(这里指毒瘾)

---- cohort (有共同特点或举止类同的)一群人，一批人； 同伙，支持者  (A person’s cohorts are their friends, supporters, or associates)

 

You cannot selectively numb emotion.

---- selectively 选择性地

---- 你无法选择性地麻痹情绪

 

You can’t say, here’s the bad stuff, here’s vulnerability, here’s grief, here is shame, here’s fear, here’s disappointment, I don’t want to feel these.

---- grief 悲痛，忧伤，不幸

 

I’m going to have a couple of beers and a banana nut muffin.

---- a couple of beers（A glass, can or bottle of beer can be referred to as a beer.）

---- muffin (涂牛油趁热吃的)英格兰松饼(A muffin is a small, flat, bread roll that you eat hot with butter);  (常含小块水果等)杯状小松糕点，玛芬(Muffins are small, round, sweet cakes, usually with fruit or bran(糠，麸(fu)) inside. They are often eaten for breakfast.)

---- 我要去喝几瓶啤酒，吃个香蕉坚果松饼。

 

and I know that’s knowing laughter

---- knowing laugher 会意的笑声

 

I hack into your lives for a living.

---- for a living

---- 我是靠“侵入”你们的生活来过日子

 

You can‘t numb those hard feelings without numbing the other affects, our emotions.

---- can‘t … without

 

So when we numb those, we numb joy, we numb gratitude, we numb happiness, and then we are miserable

---- gratitude 感谢(的心情)，感激

---- miserable

---- (如果我们麻痹了那些痛苦的情绪…)我们同时麻痹了快乐，感恩，幸福，然后我们痛不欲生.

 

And we are looking for purpose and meaning, and then we feel vulnerable, so then we have a couple of beers and a banana nut muffin, and it becomes this dangerous cycle.

---- becomes this dangerous cycle 形成了恶性循环

 

And it doesn’t just have to be addiction

----it doesn’t have to be  不一定

---- 这不一定是指吸毒

 

The  other thing we do is we make everything that’s uncertain certain.

 ---- 把不确定的东西变得确定

 

Religion has gone from a belief in faith and mystery to certainty. I’m right, you are wrong, shut up.

---- belief in faith and mystery 对信仰和神秘/不可知的笃信

 

The more afraid we are, the more vulnerable we are, the more afraid we are. This is what politics looks like today.

 

There is no discourse today.

---- discourse 某专题的会话(Discourse is spoken or written communication between people, especially serious discussion of a particular subject)

 

There is just blame. You know how blame is described in the research? A way to discharge pain and discomfort.

----discharge 释放，排出

---- 一种发泄痛苦与不快的方式

 

We perfect. If there is anyone who wants their life to look like this, it would be me, but it doesn’t work.

----我们追求完美，如果有人这样塑造他们的生活，那个人就是我，然后这行不通。

 

Because what we do is we take fat from butts and put it in our cheeks.

---- put it in our cheeks  这里用in

----我们只是把屁股上的赘肉搬到脸上。

 

Which just, I hope in 100 years, people will look back and go, ‘wow…’

---- which just, 这真是

----这真是，我希望100年后，人们回过头来不禁会感叹“哇哦”

 

And, we perfect, most dangerously, our children.

----perfect our children  

---- 最危险的是，我们想要我们的孩子变得完美。

 

Let me tell you what we think about children.

 

They are hardwired for struggle when they get here.

----be hardwired for 生来/注定要

----他们来到世上就注定要受煎熬

 

And when you hold those perfect little babies in your hand, our job is not to say “Look at her, she is perfect. My job is just to make her perfect – make sure she makes the tennies team by fifth grade, and Yale by seventh grade.”

---- hold baby

---- make the tennies team 进网球队

 

 That’s not our job, our job is to look and say “you know what? You are imperfect and you are wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging”

---- be wired for

---- be worthy of