第二课

1.Not all the theories teached fit you, find the fit one.

 

2.we did too much studies on negative things or what not works, such as why the number of crimes  is increasing, however, the positve things are at least important at the same level.

 

3.many children are not prepared for the information high way, I think I dont prepared for it too...

 

4. reasons for focusing on what works

- what works creates the reality

- being happy is more than getting rid of unhappiness

- best way to prevent from negative is cultiving positive

 

5. the ones who succeed are in common in the following ways:

- being optimistic

- help others as well as themselves,  spirally(螺旋式的)-- think helping themselves is helping others, helping others is helping themselves

- know what they are good at

- future oriented, they dont just focus on  now but also more on future

- not do things alone. they are tough enough to reach out for help admitting their weakness

- have a role model

 

6. pathetic model to salutogenic model

 

7.good questions make difference, make reality. exemple of honey moon, focus on what we are in common instead of what

 our deficiencies are

 

8.importance of appreciate, word has two meanings:

- dont take as grant

- grow

if we appreciate sth, sth will grow

 

9.a seed without light shed  and water will die, same for people

 

10.after pain, take responsibilites for it. It means we know NO ONE IS COMMING.