能量英语(三) 之 “情感把控 II ”

 

                  能量英语(三) 之 “情感把控 II ”

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   在情感把控一中，我们了解到有四种非常非常简单的方式，可以用来调节我们的情绪

即使是在犯困或是疲劳时；一、在每天或每次学习英语之前，让你的两个肩膀后倾，让

下巴抬起，胸挺直，抬头，眼睛注视着前方；二、开怀一笑；三、静静的做几次深呼

吸，也许只是一分钟或两分钟罢了；四、动起来；就这些很简单很简单的两个方式，会

让你的精神面貌完完全全的发生改变，你将会感觉开心、快乐，学的轻松、愉快，只是

因为这两个简单的小动作罢了，你将会唤醒你的大脑，快速的进入真正学习的角色，你

将会达到精神的最佳状态、最高昂的情绪这样必将学习的极其的快。

 

   这节中，我们重点强调：专心致志，集中注意力。那些是我们应该更加重视，那些

是我们应该忽略的、不必在意的呢？当你很在意别人的评价、期末、等级、托福考试等

具体的分数，你或许越紧张、越担心。想想，当你在紧张时，是不是更加的学不进去，

当紧张时学习效率是不是更加的低下。

                  

                   

  

   焦虑、担心、紧张的越多，我们的学习效率就月底下。Stephen Krashen 博士，在这

方面做了很多很长时间的研究，其中焦虑就是他研究的一个分支，在语言学习方面，焦

虑是负面因素之首。他做了相当大的调查研究，根据不同的语言学习者，把他们放置在

不同的环境中，比如会让人产生压力、会让人产生焦虑的地方，其他的放置在轻松、愉

快的坏境中，结果证明，只放在后者中的学生通常是学习的更好、学习的更快。在六个

月之后，在环境比较放松处的实验者明显有更好的语法能力，更好的发音，听力更好，

理解外语能力更强，写作能力更是牛b，总之在任何方面都比前者强。

  还有一些因素就是：注意力。你不想把精力集中在具体的事项上来达成你的目标，你

的梦想是讲一口流利的英语，在你讲英语是有强烈的充足的自信心。这些都是非常好的

目标、梦想。但是如果你不专一，总是想，哎呀，讲一口流利英语就意味着我必须每天

都要学习，我必须只是掌握20000个的词汇量， 我必须听3000小时的英语。 有了这些观

念之后，你会有生么样的心情？ 肯定会有紧张、焦虑，或许产生压力，对吗？也许你会

想，哎呀，我的妈呀，太多了，太难了！

  

   所以，你不想把注意力放在实现这些目标上，因为你觉得这太难了，太困难了，这将

直接击退了你实现梦想的激情。

  你还会关注那些事情、问题、自己的缺点，许许多多的学习者把焦点放在问题本身

上，放在自己的弱势上。在我的培训学习，很多学生过来跟我说，Aj，我的发音很不

好，我语法很多的错误。当然，这些都是我们成长当中必须会经过的一些道路，你还是

一个学生，有些时候你当然会犯错误，语法不是很正确，发音有的不是很标准。我是一

个地地道道的美国人，地地道道的说英语的人，很多时候我也同样犯错误，这很正常。

你完完全全没有必要非常的在意这些，如果你在意它，很在意这些负面的东西，很在自

己错误的语法，糟糕的发音，你的情绪将会变得的越来越低下，你的情况会变得的越来

越糟糕。

  所以呢，对这些自己的不足，不同的方式，辩证的看待就行的，我们都是人，是人就

会犯错误，每一个人都会犯错的，这真的是很正常是事情。

  还有呢，很多人很看重考试，在我的培训学校中，大部分人对之前的英语考试都有很

不好的印象，有不乐欢的经验。大部分人都不是很喜欢考试，当我试探着问他们的考试

情况时，他们都说：“哎，别提了，糟糕透了。“学生告诉我，”我真的不擅长考试，

我的英语考试总是很不理想，我都学英语学了六年、八年、十年了，但是我依然还是不

会怎么说“。

  这就是典型的把精力集中在考试上，考试可不等同于现实，Tony Robbins 常常说，考

试完全不等同于你的未来。这也的确是事实，在考试中，你用的都是很古老，很传统的

一些方法，这些让你觉得很不爽；坐在教室中也是如此，久久的坐着，不准动，经常被

考试和分数约束着，学着那些枯燥的语法教程，我们知道，其实大多数的成功人士都不

是这样出来的。当然不可否认，有一些人在这样的环境中成功了，但是相当相当的少，

所以，从现在开始，将以一种完全不同的方式来学习，整个你也完全不同，完全没有必

要非常的在意考试。

  

  好了，如果你真的想学的开心，学的愉快，很兴奋，比你之前都学习的更快、掌握的

更快，你到底用过注意什么呢？应该思考那些东西呢？

  第一；相比于专注于小问题，相比于结果，不如多想象一些最终的结果，想象你最

终会成为什么样的人，现在怎么样都不重要，重要的是你会成为什么样的人？想象你

最终成功的样子。

  

  也就是说，利用你的想象，预测未来的你，想象你讲一口流利的英语，讲的又好、有

流利，想象自己的英语说的就像是一个地地道道的外国人一样好，想象你是如此的有激

情，如此的有信心，讲英语是非常的轻松、毫不费力气。每天关注你的这些终极梦想，

你将会成为什么样的人。

        

               

         

  第二：专注你学习的需求，你学习英语的目的，你到底为什么要学习英语。如果你的

目的是考托福，总是想着过托福，你必定会每天都很累，很辛苦，有很多压力的，这虽

然没错，但是你可以有一个更好的“借口”，你是要参加托福考试，但是你参加托福考

试又是为了什么呢？也许是为了一个非常好的工作，工作中需要英语；也许你可以进行

国际贸易，需要英语；也许你想去美国上学，想在另一个国家挑战自己；想站在世界的

舞台上，，， ，，，

  这些有没有让你更具激情，激动人心，感觉更有动力？想象一下，你在世界都市 纽约

或加州，和当地人自由的交流、完全没有任何的阻力，结交新的朋友，找到一个非常好

的工作能赚很多的钱等等这些好的未来才是我们应该多专注的，让这些东西激起我们学

习的欲望和动力！

  

   好，综上所述，我们来快速的回顾一下我们应该专注的东西。我们主要讲的是注意

力，非常非常简单容易的，专注于你的最终目标，终极梦想，你现在是什么样都不重

要，重要的是你将来一定会变得非常非常的出色，让着这些动作激起你的欲望，学习快

乐的情感，让自己觉得非常的棒，你能讲一口漂亮的英语，讲给你的生活带来许许多多

的好处，这才是你应该每天要关注的，在真正的学习之前，让自己开心，快乐，激动起

来。

  

  把它写下来，你的终极梦想写下来，列一个清单，当你能过讲一口流利的英语是所有

可能发生的事情，会成功的事件。也许许许多多世界性的朋友，也许会有许许多多的旅

游经历，也许会生活或在国外工作，或许一个非常好的工作，，， ，，， 这些，你都

必须你自己列出来，写下来，写一个大大的长长的清单，所有的所有的可能发生的世

界，然后天天看，天天在具体学习之前看一遍，专注于所有积极向上的、正面的东西，

不是消极的，不是问题，不是不足，不是考试过。

  

   好的，这就是“情绪掌控 二”的主要内容，马上行动，列下清单，在自己每天或每

天开始真正的学习具体东西是看一遍自己的终极梦想！让自己兴奋起来、激动起来、高

兴起来、快乐起来！

   

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      Power、Efortless English

       

    Hello and welcome to the next lesson “EmotionalMastery 2.”

  

   So in Emotional Mastery 1 welearned about changing our physiology, 

changing our bodies to change ouremotions.Remember in that less I said there 

are two ways to change youremotions. Number one is physiology, we talked 

about that.

  

  There is something else you can change so you can bein a peak emotional 

state as you learn English and that is your focus, yourmental focus.

   What you think about consistently, that will changeyour emotion also.So 

what do I mean by mental focus? How do you change yourmental focus? What 

should you focus on? What should you not focus on?

    

       

  

  First, let’s talk about thenegative. What should you not focus on?Try to 

remember when you were in school in yourEnglish classes.

  What did you focus on when you were in school? Whatdid you think about, 

worry about, consistently, frequently?Well probably tests,right? That was 

one I always thought about. You probably were focused on testsa lot.“I 

gotta pass this test, I gotta pass this test.” Tests, and thengrades.“Will 

I get an A? Will I get a B? Will I get a C? Will I fail thiscourse?”

  

  So you were thinking about judgment, other peoplejudging you, the teacher 

judging you, getting a grade, getting a score.How didyou feel about that? 

When you think about tests, tests, tests a lot and youthink a lot about a 

score, a grade, A, B, C.Or maybe now you’re thinking aboutthe TOEFL exam 

and you’re worried “What number will I get on the TOEFL exam?”How does 

that affect your emotions?

  Do you feel more relaxed or more stressful?Well, mostpeople feel more 

stressful, of course. The more you think about judgment, themore you think 

about a test score, the more nervous you become, the moreworried you 

become.And that’s not good. You actually learn more slowly whenyou’re 

worried.You learn more slowly when you’re nervous, when you haveanxiety.

  Again, I’ll talk about Dr.Stephen Krashen, ourfavorite researcher. 

Anxiety is a major part of his research. It is the singlenumber one most 

negative factor in language acquisition, in language learning. Anxietymeans 

worry or stress and there are many, many studies about this.

 

They study different language learners, study different English learners. 

And they putthem in a situation where they are more stressed or more 

worried. And they haveothers that are in a more relaxed situation. And the 

relaxed students alwayslearn better and faster.

  So let’s say after six months the relaxed studentswill have better 

grammar, better pronunciation, better listening andunderstanding, better 

writing skill, better everything.

  The anxious students, the worried, nervous students,the stressed students, 

of course, have worse pronunciation, worse speakingability, less vocabulary, 

worse writing, less listening comprehension,listening understanding.

 So what was happening in school was you were actuallylearning to fail. You 

were training yourself to be stressed and nervous. Youwere training yourself 

to focus on things, tests, grades, teacher’s opinion ofyou, that make you 

feel nervous and that nervousness made you learn moreslowly. So you don’t 

want to focus on that.

 Something else you don’t want to focus on. You don’twant to focus on 

every small step to reach your goal.Your goal is to speakexcellent English, 

to feel strong and confident when you speak.That’s a greatgoal. But what 

happens if you focus on everything you must do to reach thegoal?

 For example, you think “Oh god, to become a great speakerthat means I’ve 

got to study every day. I’ve got to learn 20,000 vocabularywords. I’ve got 

to listen to 2 or 3,000 hours of English.” How does that makeyou feel? 

Probably a little nervous, probably stressed, right, you think “Oh mygod, 

it’s too much.”

  So you don’t want to focus on the little individualsteps because it’s 

going to seem huge, it’s going to seem so big it’s going tokill your 

motivation.

  What else do you not want to focus on? Problems.Problems, so many students 

focus on problems. In my classes inSan Franciscothey come to me “AJ, 

my pronunciation is bad. AJ I make grammar mistakes.” Well, of course you 

do.You’re a student. You’re learning. It’s normal. You’re going to make 

mistakes. You’regoing to have problems sometimes. You’re going to make a 

mistake with yourpronunciation. I do, I’m a native speaker, I’m an English 

teacher. I makemistakes all the time.It’s normal. You can’t focus on it. 

If you focus on it,if you focus on the negative, if you focus on mistakes, 

if you focus on problemsyour emotions become weaker and weaker.You actually 

get worse.

  So you just need to relax about this. Everybody ishuman. Everybody makes 

mistakes. It’s a normal thing.

  Finally, you do not want to focus on the past. Most ofmy students have 

very negative experiences with English from the past. Most didnot enjoy 

their English classes in school. When I ask about their past 

withEnglish “Oh, oh, it was terrible.” People tell me, students tell me 

“I’m notgood at English. I was always bad in my English classes. I’ve 

studied for 6 years, 8 years, 10 years, still I cannot speak well.”

  Focused on the past, well the past is not the same asthe present. The past 

doesn’t equal the future as Tony Robbins likes to say.

  And it’s true. In the past you used very oldtraditional methods that made 

you feel bad.Sitting in a class still, notmoving, being graded and tested 

constantly.Studying boring grammar textbooks,that’s not a method for 

success for most people. Some people succeed with thatbut very few.So the 

past was different. You’re now learning in a very differentway. You are 

different now. Don’t focus on the past.

  Alright, so enough of what not to do. What should youfocus on if you want 

to be happy, if you want to be excited, if you want tolearn very quickly, 

faster than before. What should you focus on? What shouldyou think about 

consistently all the time?

            

          

  

  Well number one, instead of focusing on the littlesteps and all the little 

problems, instead focus on the end result. The finalresult, that’s what you 

need to focus on.Focus on your ultimate success.

 So in other words use your imagination and seeyourself, imagine yourself 

speaking English fluently, quickly.Imagine yourselfsmiling as you speak 

English with a native speaker.Imagine yourself feeling strongand confident 

as you speak English easily, effortlessly.

   Every day focus on this thought, the end result.

  What you will ultimately reach,ultimately achieve, what you will finally 

do.Focus on the end result every day,the final result. Do not focus on the 

little steps you must take everyday.Focus on the final result every day.

  Second, focus on the purpose, the reason you arelearning English.I mean 

why?If your purpose is to take the TOEFL exam, you’regoing to be stressed 

and depressed. Nobody is excited about a test, nobody Iknow. That’s not a 

good emotional thing to focus on. It’s not a good reason tolearn English. 

Taking a test is a terrible reason because it makes you feelstressed, 

nervous, tired and bored.You need bigger, better reasons. Yes, maybeyou need 

to take the TOEFL exam but why?Why do you want to pass the TOEFLexam?Maybe 

you want a great job that requires English, where you can use Englishin 

international trade perhaps.Maybe you want to study in the United States, 

go to a University in the United States, have a great adventure in 

another country.Well that makes you feel good, right, thinking about that?        

   Imagine yourself in New York City orin San Francisco, meeting native 

speakers, talking effortlessly, easily.Makingnew friends, a great new job 

with more money, now those are great things tofocus on.

 So you want to focus on compelling strong reasons whyyou’re learning 

English, why it’s important, the benefits, things that make youfeel great. 

Do not focus on a test, please.

  So those are the two things, you focus on the endresult and they’re 

related, they’re basically the same thing.  Number two you focus on the 

reasons why, thepurpose. So you have to imagine very vividly, very strongly 

in your head whatit is you will finally do.

 See the end result. And then feel the emotions. Thelast step is you want to 

see the end result with emotion, let yourself feelthat it’s real.So when 

you focus on speaking great English, feel the emotions.Feel proud. Feel 

happy. Feel confident. Smile big.Imagine how you will feelspeaking excellent 

English.

  Okay, so let’sreview very quickly about focus.The main thing about 

focus, it’s very, verysimple. You’re going to focus on the end 

result, the final result. You want tofocus on the thing that makes you 

feel great, the situation, the benefits, allthe great things that will 

improve in your life by speaking excellent English.That’s what you 

need to focus on every day.

 

  Write it down. Write down, make a list of all thegreat things that will 

happen in your life when you speak excellent English.Newfriends, maybe? 

Maybe great new travel experiences. Maybe living or workingabroad. Maybe a 

better job.I don’t know, you have to make your own list, butmake it a big 

list. Write down all the great things that will happen in yourlife and then 

every day focus on those.Review those every day. Teach your brain to 

focus on these positive inspiringthings, not on these negative things, 

not on problems, not on the past.

  Okay, so that is it for this main speech on “EmotionalMastery 2.” 

Focus.Next let’s listen to the vocabulary and then we’ll have themini-

story.