Derek Sivers：我是一个慢思考者（译）

I’m a very slow thinker

题目：我是一个慢思考者

译注
初稿：2020年09月06日
原文地址是 https://sive.rs/slow，原文有 Derek Sivers 的音频。

原文时间：2016-08-26

When a friend says something interesting to me, I usually don’t have a reaction until much later.

译：当朋友给我说了什么有趣的事时，我通常没什么反应，要等很久以后才会回应。

When someone asks me a deep question, I say, “Hmm. I don’t know.” The next day, I have an answer.

译：当有人问我一个很有深度的问题时，我会说：“嗯，我不知道”。第二天，我会有一个回答。

I’m a disappointing person to try to debate or attack. I just have nothing to say in the moment, except maybe, “Good point.” Then a few days later, after thinking about it a lot, I have a response.

译：要是想和我争论或者冲突的话，我会很令人失望。我不会立刻说什么，除了可能会说“有道理”。可能得几天，在反复思考以后，我会有一个回答。

This probably makes me look stupid in the moment, but I don’t mind. I’m not trying to win any debates.

译：这可能会使我看起来很傻，但是我不在乎。我不会试图赢得任何争论。

In fact, I’ll tell you a secret. When someone wants to interview me for their show, I ask them to send me some questions a week in advance. I spend hours writing down answers from different perspectives, before choosing the most interesting one. Then when we’re in a live conversation, I try to make my answers sound spontaneous.

译：其实，我要告诉你一个秘密。当有人想要在他们的节目中采访我时，我会让他们提前一周把问题发给我。我会用好几个小时从不同的角度来写下答案，然后选择最有趣的一个。然后当我们在现场对话时，我会努力让我的回答听起来自然一些。

People say that your first reaction is the most honest, but I disagree. Your first reaction is usually outdated. Either it’s an answer you came up with long ago and now use instead of thinking, or it’s a knee-jerk emotional response to something in your past.

译：人们常说你的第一反应是最忠实的，但是我不同意。你的第一反应通常是过时的。要么这个答案你很早以前就想出来了，现在想也不想就直接用，要么它只是一种类似膝跳反射的情感反应，是对你从前的反应。

When you’re less impulsive and more deliberate like this, it can be a little inconvenient for other people, but that’s OK. Someone asks you a question. You don’t need to answer. You can say, “I don’t know,” and take your time to answer after thinking. Things happen. Someone expects you to respond. But you can say, “We’ll see.”

译：当你像这样一样，少一些冲动，多一些慎重，对于别人来说可能有点不方便，但没关系。有人问了你一个问题。你不需要回答。你可以说，“我不知道，”然后花点时间想想，再来回答。事情总是这样。有人期待你给个回答。但是你可以说：“我们会知道的。”

And maybe, through example, you can show them that they can do the same.

译：或许，通过你的榜样，你可以让告诉他们，他们也可以这样。