为什么一行动起来总比想象要难？

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Why doing the thing is ALWAYS harder than you think - YouTube[1]

James Lim｜为什么一行动起来总比想象要难？[2]

介绍

采取行动比想象中困难，主要是因为大多数人关注的地方和解决问题的方法是错误的。

他们往往忽视了情感因素，而这些情感因素在行动的关键时刻起着决定性的作用。

笔记

原因分析

许多人在面对行动时会感到恐惧、不确定性、自我怀疑、缺乏信心等情绪。

这些情绪没有被解决，导致计划看起来无效，最终导致拖延和回避。

长期来看，这会引发一系列负面情绪和行为，如持续的自我怀疑和严重的拖延习惯。

具体步骤

转变思维方式：从基于逻辑的系统转向情感的系统，关注情感因素。
制定实际且可行的行动计划：一步一步来，使过程尽可能简单和安全，减少大脑的抵抗。
采用有效的心态：改变思维和信念，赋予自己目标和动机。
坚持计划：建立一个系统，帮助自己坚持计划，不偏离轨道。

通过这些步骤，你可以克服情感上的障碍，采取实际行动，实现目标。

中文

为什么采取行动如此困难？

我们经常说，“我知道该怎么做，为什么我做不到？”

问题是，大多数人都在错误的地方寻找答案。

你关注需要修复的地方是错误的。

你最终构建了错误的方法，并加倍努力在对你不起作用的事情上。

我一次又一次地看到这种情况。

大多数人都关注需要做什么。

例如，你不断阅读同类书籍，关于如何增加销售电话或如何推销自己。

这几乎是个笑话：

第一步，相信自己；

第二步，只管去做；

第三步，成功。

但现实是不同的。

你必须面对这座桥，找到过桥的方法，并在需要跃过的时候处理好你的心理状态。

恐惧、不确定性、自我怀疑、缺乏信心、冒名顶替综合症、压倒感、焦虑——这些都是我们考虑的事情。

你的计划往往没有考虑到你在这一点上会面临的情绪以及根据这些情绪对你的影响而需要采取的具体路径。

你尝试开始但感到不确定。

计划步骤似乎无效，最终你站在桥的边缘，感到不知所措。

这些是一个未解决问题的症状，通常是情感上的。

你没有解决它，因为你在阅读更多关于采取步骤的书，而不是如何应对走上绳桥的恐惧。

我们需要从基于逻辑的系统转向情感的系统。

如果你继续这样做，你会增加不适感、自我怀疑、挫败感，并最终感到愚蠢。

这导致长期的回避、拖延和即时满足。

你最终将这些习惯训练到你的系统中。

长期效果包括持续的自我怀疑、对采取行动的焦虑、对压倒感的敏感性增加、严重的拖延习惯以及无能为力的感觉。

你觉得你又让自己失望了。

这可能导致对获取更多知识和寻找分散注意力的东西上瘾。

你开始采用“借口身份”。

你想以不断找借口而闻名吗？

许多人行动能力的恶化是一个现实。

当我开始与人们一起工作时，有时即使是采取最小的行动也非常困难，导致一个向下的螺旋。

这里有一个图解：你有想法，开始研究，尝试开始，创建一个不充分的行动计划，感到不知所措、压力大、焦虑，批评自己，避免任务，回到研究，这个循环导致没有行动。

我们需要让你跨过这一边。

许多人从未跨过。

对于他们生活中的重要项目，他们经常会到达那里。

你会增加对压倒感、自我怀疑、焦虑、压力、拖延的敏感性，以及显著的信心下降、心理素质和解决问题的能力——一个重要的技能——以及开始的能力。

解决方案是什么？

我们需要给你目标和动机，帮助你做好准备，以便你准备好应对绳桥。

采用有效的心态是至关重要的。

开始改变你的思维和信念。

创建一个实际且可行的行动计划，一步一步来，而不是第一次就跑完全程。

让过程尽可能容易。

我们让它越安全、越容易，你的大脑抵抗就越少。

有一个系统帮助你坚持计划，这样你就不会偏离。

这将为你的人生提供武装。

我已经使用这种方法超过10年了，我的客户发现它在任何情况下都非常有用。

这将允许你去任何你想去的地方。

如果你学会了应对这一点，你就可以永远从一个岛跳到另一个岛。

人们经常说，“我从没想过我会在这里。”

这是我最喜欢听到的事情之一。

致力于跨越这一座桥，使他们能够跨越到他们想去的任何地方。

英文

1 Why is taking action so hard? We often say, "I know what to do, why can't I do it?" The issue is that most people are looking in the wrong place. Your focus on what you need to fix is misplaced. You end up building the wrong approach and doubling down on things that won't work for you. I see this time and time again. Most people focus on what needs to be done. For example, you keep reading the same types of books about strategies like making more sales calls or putting yourself out there. It's almost a joke: step one, believe in yourself; step two, just do it; and step three, success. But reality is different. You have to face this bridge, find a way across it, and deal with the mental state right at the point where you need to take the leap. Fear, uncertainty, self-doubt, lack of confidence, impostor syndrome, overwhelm, anxiety—these are all the things we think about. Your plans often don't consider the emotions you'll face at this point and the specific path you need to take, depending on how those emotions affect you. You try to start but feel unsure. The plan steps seem ineffective, and you end up standing at the edge of the bridge, overwhelmed. These are symptoms of an unaddressed problem, often an emotional one. You're not solving it because you're reading more books about steps to take rather than how to deal with the fear of stepping onto the rope bridge.

2 We need to shift from a logic-based system to an emotional one. If you continue as you are, you increase feelings of inadequacy, self-doubt, frustration, and often end up feeling stupid. This causes chronic avoidance, procrastination, and instant gratification. You end up training these habits into your system. Long-term effects include constant self-doubt, anxiety about taking action, increased sensitivity to overwhelm, severe procrastination habits, and a feeling of being incapable. You feel like you've let yourself down again. This can lead to an addiction to acquiring more knowledge and seeking distractions. You start adopting an "excuse identity." Do you want to be known for constantly making excuses? The deterioration of your ability to take any action is a reality for many. When I start with people, it's sometimes so difficult to take even the smallest actions, leading to a downward spiral.

3 Here's a diagram of it: You have ideas, start researching, try to start, create an insufficient action plan, feel overwhelmed, stressed, anxious, criticize yourself, avoid the task, go back to research, and this cycle leads to no action. We need to get you over this side. Many people never make it across. For the important projects in their life, they often make it there. You get increased sensitivity to overwhelm, self-doubt, anxiety, stress, procrastination, and a noticeable drop in confidence, mental fitness, and the ability to figure things out—an important skill—and the ability to start.

4 What's the solution? We need to give you purpose and motivation to help rev you up, so you're ready to tackle the rope bridge. Adopting an effective mindset is crucial. Start changing your thinking and beliefs. Create a practical and accessible action plan, something manageable—not running across the bridge all the way the first time. Make the process as easy as possible. The safer and more accessible we make it, the less resistance your brain puts up. Have a system to help you stick to the plan so you don't stray off. This will arm you for life. I've continued to use this approach for over 10 years, and my clients find it incredibly useful in any situation. This will allow you to go wherever you want. If you learn to tackle this bit, you can jump from island to island forever. Often, people say, "I never thought I'd be here." That's one of the greatest things I like to hear. Working on crossing this one bridge has enabled them to cross to wherever they want to go.